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Wow Tybec, I love this.  So eloquently put! Thank you!

I was on the old YWBB too.  There were so many terrific posts lost when they shut that down.  So glad many good ones made it here!! 

His name was Gord. It'll be 8 yrs in May.  I can't believe that much time has gone by.  Just typing this brings tears to my eyes.  I miss him so much.

Hi Ladies,

at 7.5 yrs out I can recall feeling just what you're both describing. Yes to letting the grief flow and feel it. Remember one day/hour/moment at a time and you'll get through it.  I've also learned that the anticipation is usually worse than the actual day.  

Gentle hugs to you.

After reading all the crazy stories about the dating sites I still haven't worked up the nerve to join..... even with this isolation

Hi Jessica, I'm so sorry you had to join us.   Wow you have a lot on your plate right now. Getting past the stuff that is eating at you will happen over time and I hope eventually you level out.  Baby steps will get you there.  Hugs to you.

Hi Beryl, I'm not sure why this board has been so quiet.  I remember about 5 yrs ago this board was busy as heck. I have no idea why people aren't posting the way they used to.  Don't let that stop you from reaching out.  Many just read and will provide support if needed.  Hugs.

Thank you Ladies for sharing your beautiful memories and photos.  I can completely relate to where you say you feel so detached from your old life.  It will be 7 yrs at the end of this month and it feels surreal.  I am thankful to no longer be in the throws of that pain like in the early years.  

Great post T and thread! I've been on the computer all day for work (during the week) and had no motivation for anything else. Even eating was a chore and for me that's odd. Weather was nice yesterday and my body needed to do work.   Must say if felt really good.  Today..... not so much LOL.  With this isolation and the crappy weather I think we're all feeling it for sure.

As I'm here alone during this self isolating time, I can't help but think about my fellow wids who are early in this terrible journey of widowhood.  While I'm not struggling now like the early days (and thankful for that at almost 7 yrs out) I have noticed that many in the early days are not posting like we did back then.  

What are you struggling with?  What you may think are crazy thoughts you'll be surprised at how many of us have had similar ones, share them and see if they are more common than you realized.  I remember thinking.... thank God, I'm not crazy after all.

What can we do to help our early wids?  What advice do you have for those of you long into this journey?

Yes, this has become a rambling post to see where it goes.  

Stay safe and hugs to all.

Hugs to you SquintyPud.  Welcome to the group nobody wants to join but glad you found us.  We get where you are because we've been there.  At almost 7  yrs out I remember the early days so very well.  Be gentle with yourself, drink lots of water, crying is very dehydrating. Glad to hear your coworkers are very supportive.  Take it one day/hour/minute at a time.   

Wow Patswife, like you I have learned only to well how people change after death.  I'm sorry you have this to deal with.  They sound like my 2 sisters.... they have shocked me by their actions. 2 of my 3 brothers have been there for me as much as they can in this past 6.5 yrs and for that I am very thankful.

Hugs.

Congratulations Mrs.D that is terrific news!

You nailed it Bunny!

Hi Whyme.  You are most welcome to read and post to this site.  Whether you posted on another site or not!  Are you referring to this predecessor YWBB?  It was taken down in 2015 much to my and many's dismay. How long have you been widowed?  Don't be shy to post for support.  As you probably know..... we get it.\

Hugs.

So sorry Rob.  Prayers to you and hope this get better for you! 

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I'm sorry to say laurie27 that I too found as time went on it became harder and yes I have to agree about the title.  At least that is how it worked for me as well.  I got counselling and it did help me.  Be gentle with yourself and go with it. Early out I read a statement that really stuck with me and helped me get through it.  "If you're going through hell, just keep going."  It made me feel like I wasn't alone going through hell.

Hugs to you.

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Yuck yuks.... I certainly remember.  Good article.

 

Congrats to you Laurie27!! Building that wid muscle is good!!

Sorry you had to join us Joan but glad you found us.  I used to describe it as being a fucking emotional yoyo.  It was so unsettling feeling all the range of emotions.  Hopefull it settles down for you like it did for me.

RAM guess you shouldn't have done such a good job LOL 

Hugs to all!

Ditto to LF and J3 said.  They may mean well but it really is not any of their business unless you asked them for their opinion.  If you didn't, why do they even care.  In my early days I found people close to me thought they could just say things to me they never would have said if DH was here.  I found it bothersome and weird.  At the same time I do remember that early on I was emotionally thin skinned whereas now I just ignore them.  Happy quilting!! 

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Unsettling.....yes I can certainly relate to this feeling.  At 6 yrs out I'm feeling stuck and not knowing where to go.  RAM please don't stop 'rambling'!  Your posts are so thought provoking! 

Wow kflex, I'm sorry you have to deal with all of this ex crazy stuff.  I think I'd be getting some legal advice if I were you.  You need to protect you and your children from this wackjob. 

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Such a horrible nightmare for this family.  My heart breaks for them. There are no words.

Congrats on your son's graduation!! I hear you about "he should be here".  Really sucks doesn't it.

Hugs