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How very sad! I "met"Micael on the this board and sang a part of "his" song(My dearly beloved). We met in Amsterdam irl (Widowbago 2015) en spent some days with him and Jen in Barcelona. I loved his sense of humour, it was quick and sharp. I hope he is meeting up with his son! My condolances to his fiancee.

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Rayspumkin,

don't be bothered about "them"! You are doing the right thing!

This young man is so blessed to have some one like you to stand by and be there for him!

SKIPD, that is one of the songs I had played on his funeralservice

I often feel like I don't know what is harder to believe - that he died or that he lived. I feel like our life together is one I dreamed myself. With no kids, it was just the two of us. No one else really knows the memories I do... well, except him. "Remember when?!" - can't do that with anyone but myself.

^^^^^^^^This^^^^

AC, so glad you are back!

I just read another post of you and wondered who you were, now I know, so good to hear from you!!

I understand, I'm three months ahead of you, hoping it will get "easier" somehow, someday....

(((hugs)))

BH2, are you ok???

If you need to "talk", I'm here to listen(or you can pm me) because it DOES matter!!!

Of course it hurts!!!

I'm so sorry, it sucks loosing a pet and especially this way!

Give your kids a big hug from me.

Oh, this is me. This is so me. I can't stand the thought of losing anyone or anything else. By the same token, I don't want anyone or anything new to care about. No more feels, please. Just... no more.

Sorry Jen, this is your quote(something went wrong)

... I can't bear the thought of loosing it too.  I feel like I'm still walking through the valley so I can't bear to lose anything more.

 

Oh, this is me. This is so me. I can't stand the thought of losing anyone or anything else. By the same token, I don't want anyone or anything new to care about. No more feels, please. Just... no more.

Well, count me in as well....I feel that way too and it's frightening me: to care again = the fear of loosing again,

and therefore avoiding it(not even always intentionally). I wonder if that feeling will ever go away.

I'm done with loosing, I have lost to many.

Sending you all the strength you need, SimiRed, hope that it will go like you want it to go on Monday.

You are incredible, you have already shown that you are a powerful woman and mother.

You are not going to lose it in that courtroom, you already "won", so no matter what happens in there, you will walk away with pride and dignity!

Jen, I think Maureen is right!!! Boy, do I get it!!

(((HUGS)))

I understand! It's so nice to have someone to really talk to on the same level, it lightens up your day doesn't it?

Hope you can enjoy eachothers company more often.

Of course that hurts! I keep wondering how people like that are thinking. They must know you get to see their pictures. Perhaps that's their problem:they don't think at all!!!

I'm so sorry

(((Trying)))

SVS, I think it IS different to loose the person who knew you inside out.

But you are doing the best you can which is quite a lot, taking such good care of your children and being so kind and understanding to your fellowwids.

Tight, tight hugs

Oh yes, what Virgo said, I sometimes say a quote of us(without thinking) to someone else and then I realize they don't understand.....

Sharing our memories

Just wanted to wish you all a great day!!

Seems you will have a wonderful time together!

Mikeeh, I can relate. The day DH was rushed to the hospital I knew our lives would never be the same, he never came back, 4 days later he died.

I can't imagine how it must feel when you already know your spouse is never coming back. Seems to me you took care of her as long as you possibly could!

((hugs))

Trying, I wish so too!! I'm so glad I finally get to meet some of my fellowwids!

((Jen)), please don't worry about getting excited or not, it will be so good to see you and give you some real hugs, just be there sweetie.

(((lcoxwell)), of course you love them, pets are great company and can be such a comfort!

Not silly at all, I hope if you have to give them up you can find them good homes, not an easy decision to make!!!

Grace, I can do that(if everone agrees!)

I will send a group pm with my emailadres to get all the emailadresses and start it up, after you all have checked the list because I want to be sure I don't "forget" anyone!!

So here's the WOWlist:

Ursula

Grace

Boywidower

Tweety76

Aicha

Michael797

JustJen

Suki 1

Helen

Wnella(not staying at the Wyndham, one day stay?)

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And Grace sweetie, I promise we won't be disappointed and Michael:yes, we can start getting excited :-)))!!!!!

  He was real!  He existed!  He cared about life!  Let's talk about him! 

^^^^^^^^^^^^^^

Guess that's what I mean, for them it has become "normal" to see me without him, for me it will always seem unreal!

 

Thanks for understanding, as always.......

 

Hi Grace, I would be happy to book but just looked at the site of Anne Frank and it is totally booked(not just our days but up to august)!

If we are interested in a walking tour maybe we should't wait much longer? I can take care of the reservation!

I know that the Rijksmuseum can be very busy too, so if you want I can look into that and maybe book ahead.

Maybe it's time to start a pm group? I don't do facebook(I think Ursula doesn't either?)

I came home from a holiday for which a couple I know for years invited me to come along. They knew dh as well, she is my friend and they practically saw him die. Not once during those 8 days they asked me how is was doing without dh. I sat between them and other couples while they were discussing how many years they were married, joking about eachothers husbands and wife's, etc. and I felt so terribly alone.  I got home and for the first time our cat wasn't there to welcome me(I had to put him down in april), they know about that too! I know I'm being sensitive but I always thought they really cared. Guess I was wrong.

I'm so sad and tomorrow is my weddinganniversary(which everybody has "forgotten" too).

I know everyone moves on with their life, I hardly talk about dh anymore irl, I just didn't expect it from these "friends"! After 2 years and 3 months out another lesson learned I suppose. Does it ever stop?

It touches me that people are missed by others on this board!

Never crossed my mind to think otherwise than what Carey meant.