Alexsander

Someone posted this link years ago when I was going thru this. It helped me a lot:

http://outlawblogspot.blogspot.com.br/2005/10/skin-hunger.html

Even the nights are better (Air Supply).

We both had sad divorces from cheaters.

The lyrics are right on the spot.

"I used to think I was tied to a heartache

That was the heartbreak, but now that I've found you

(...)

You, you knew just what to do

'Cause you had been lonely too

And you showed me how

To ease the pain and

You did more than mend a broken heart

'Cause now you've made a fire start"

There are others that make me cry but this one was OUR song.

I did give some things away to Catherine's mother and sisters, but there is still so much more.

 

(...)

 

Has anyone found an effective, systematic way for respectfully giving away their spouse's belongings?

1. I've sold the house DW and I bought together near the 2 years mark. The only furniture I took: our baby daughter's room and a sofa DW's mother gave us;

2. I did give most of her belongings to her mother and other relatives (DW was the only child);

3. I've stored the most meaningful items in boxes -- for our daughter to open when old enough;

4. Three pictures from her pregnancy's "studio photo session" are in our daughter's room wall.

I'm 2+ years off and still can't ENTER a Subway restaurant. Anyone, anywhere.

DW suffered the fatal brain stroke sitting at a table while I was grabbing the menu.

We all have triggers.

I'm also curious about the answers. DW passed away when our baby daughter was 25 days old. DAYS, not months.

She's 2 now, I have a fianc?e she calls MOM but DW's family is very present. I wonder when will she ask.

I shed so many tears regretting every little fight with DW... because they robbed me at least a few minutes of quality time with her. Now I'm more tolerant. Way more tolerant. She crashed the car? Fine. She set the house on fire but nobody is hurt? No biggie.

And yes, we all cry sometimes. They must deal with it.

Porto de Galinhas (Brazil) with baby daughter Sofia (DW's daughter) and fianc?e Gabriela (Feb '15).

Her name was Fabiana, or "Fabi". She passed away two years ago (July 23) three weeks after giving birth. I've dreamt about her a few days ago: in the dream, I saw her laying in a bed, alive and kinda sleepy. I sat beside her and hugged her, saying "my love!". Then I realized it was a dream and I woke up. Weird?

My 2-year mark is July 23rd. A few months ago I finally gave her ashes to MIL, and she buried them (box and all) in the family cemetery, in a small town 100+ km from here. I'm planning to visit the grave next week and the new girl will go with me.

It's my first message in the new forum. The 2 years mark is coming (July 23rd) and I wanted to log back in YWBB to talk... then I've found it was gone. I hope this one can help the newly widowed as well as YWBB helped me.

I'm engaged now; my fianc?e is a second mother to my baby daughter. She is 2 and still does not ask for her biological mother. She will eventually wonder how does she got 3 grandmothers... I still have boxes of DW's stuff I want her to have. Also, I finally managed to give DW's ashes to her mother, it was a catharsis moment.