arneal Posted September 29, 2016 Share Posted September 29, 2016 Oh Rob! I am so sorry and admit I giggled through this. So sorry you've had all this occur. I wonder who that crack team of customer service specialists are at these sites and how they manage to not have real contact info available when things go kaput. I suppose there's something in those wonderful Welcome emails they send when you sign up, but now that you've investigated and all, that suggestion is a wee bit outdated All the best with your double new and improved profile! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
daysofelijah Posted September 29, 2016 Share Posted September 29, 2016 Rob, the same thing happened to me earlier this summer on match. I hadn't logged in in a long time, but I was trying to help a guy friend to move on from asking me out multiple times despite me telling him I'm happy with bf, by helping him set up a match profile and he wanted to see my old profile... Anyway, yeah someone hacked my account, changed all the info, and charged a bunch of upgrades on to my account that was somehow still connected to PayPal. After dealing with the customer service, I got most of the $ back and account deactivated again. What a pain though! Hopefully I don't ever need to use match again! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arneal Posted September 29, 2016 Share Posted September 29, 2016 Oh, wow, Amy! That is horrible but thank God you found out before more was taken from you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SemperFidelis Posted October 1, 2016 Share Posted October 1, 2016 How nice to be casually enjoying the company of a really good man these last couple of weeks. Laughter, good conversations, picnic on the beach and ... guess what ... I even trusted him completely to try something new-to-me ... rode on the back of his Indian motorcycle at the beach at sunset! So Much Fun! Staying present and enjoying new experiences on a lot of great levels. We are going out for my birthday later tonight - looking forward to that. Have a happy weekend, friends. Hope you are all well. Congrats Sunshine 😊 Glad to hear you found someone you are meshing with! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arneal Posted October 1, 2016 Share Posted October 1, 2016 Have fun, Sunshine! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
serpico Posted October 1, 2016 Share Posted October 1, 2016 I even trusted him completely to try something new-to-me ... rode on the back of his Indian motorcycle at the beach at sunset! Don't let him tell you that's a gearshift you're holding on to. It ain't. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arneal Posted October 1, 2016 Share Posted October 1, 2016 Amen, Sunshine -- my NG has a Harley. We haven't gone riding yet as he's about to upgrade and wants to wait until he's got the bigger one. Could also be another thread Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Momtojandj Posted October 5, 2016 Share Posted October 5, 2016 Looks like my online is on pause . I need to go get new pictures done, I will attach my new look .. Went for a new look, dark hair . Ignore glasses , I don't wear them . However, could you imagine showing up with such a drastic look on a date lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
momtokam Posted October 5, 2016 Author Share Posted October 5, 2016 Haven't been on line much these days but I still have a giggle for you all. I had been chatting with someone in January and all seemed great until he went poof! He tried to start up again in March. I didn't give him the chance. He couldn't remember my name! Then this exchange this week on the dating site.... Him - I want you... It's XXX... you still have my number? Me- Seriously XXX? You had your chance and blew it! You probably still can't remember my name! Him- really... I don't think we spoke... Me- If we didn't speak, how could I have your number? Him- ok...so text me then...really like you.. Where is the face palm emoji? Here is my reply back.... I wish you could hear me laughing! I have an awesome laugh. Too bad you can't remember it and that you will never hear it again. 😁 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arneal Posted October 5, 2016 Share Posted October 5, 2016 There are days, momto, that it seems nearly impossible. We couldn't make this stuff up if we tried. Glad you can laugh about it! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arneal Posted October 11, 2016 Share Posted October 11, 2016 No way you could make it up ... plus, what's with the same lingo in both messages? Same person perhaps? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arneal Posted October 11, 2016 Share Posted October 11, 2016 Lol! Well, thank goodness! Online dating world is weird enough Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Needytoo Posted October 15, 2016 Share Posted October 15, 2016 Question for everyone, when do you give out your phone number? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arneal Posted October 15, 2016 Share Posted October 15, 2016 Hi, Needy: I added a second phone number to my mobile. If you search your app store, you should find Sideline -- it's free and works like your regular number. There is a paid version but I don't use it that much. It allows you to make and receive calls and texts. I like it because I don't want someone I am unsure about to have my real # straight away. I used it as the contact number when I signed up on dating sites as well. In the case of NG, I gave it to him the first time we chatted online and used it for about a month of our initial contact. I then gave him my regular mobile #. Funny you asked this question because he happened to call me on the Sideline # yesterday as he still has it programmed in his phone Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RobFTC Posted October 15, 2016 Share Posted October 15, 2016 Needytoo, with online I usually offer my number just before first meeting in case someone is running late, and half the time she's offered her number by then as well. Of course, in person, which is coming up more, I usually lead by asking for a number, and they don't really know a lot about me there. Arneal, Sideline sounds cool, though my App store is catatonic right now. Another option for those on match.com is their anonymous matchPhone feature, which appears useful. Take care, Rob T Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Momtojandj Posted October 16, 2016 Share Posted October 16, 2016 So, I pretty much have my profile hidden 90 percent of the time anymore . Tired of the games that go on .. Anyway .. Happen to go on the other night and I received a message . So , off to check his profile and he smokes . I respond , nice to hear from you however I prefer to not date smokers , good luck . He responds , ok your so beautiful I will quit . I respond , hold on while I step out of the bull@@ you just left . He says , no really I will quit for you . Same night , receive a message from a guy I already went out with over a year ago . He doesnt remember me, probably because on the date he stared at my boobs all night . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Needytoo Posted October 16, 2016 Share Posted October 16, 2016 Yikes momtojandj. I have been chatting with a few guys and now they want my cell number. I have given it out in the past but really having trust issues right now which I know isn't helping me get a date. Wish my brain would shut up. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Momtojandj Posted October 16, 2016 Share Posted October 16, 2016 Needy, I actually don't mind giving my number out . I find it weeds out people fast . Also once I have their number I can google and try to get some info. Usually not a lot since it's a cell , but I have gotten lucky on a few . Like the guy who said he was 50 and separated. When I put in his cell number in Google , it went to a resume which led to other things and he was 55 and married still. Hmmmm... Second thought, I get your trust issues .. Sorry ! If it doesn't feel right , don't exchange numbers . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Needytoo Posted October 16, 2016 Share Posted October 16, 2016 I have given it out in the past and you are so right Momtojandj it does weed out those people that really not ready for a relationship. I need to get over this darn trust issue and the only way if is I trust again. This guy that wants my phone number so far is someone I really want to get to know better, the problem is he lives 3 hours away. Not sure how this is going to work out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arneal Posted October 16, 2016 Share Posted October 16, 2016 Momto ... I confess, I had to laugh about the no-remembering-because-of-boobs guy. It is a crazy thing, this world of dating. That's why a couple of dear friends and I call it 'junior high'. So silly. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
klim Posted October 16, 2016 Share Posted October 16, 2016 Had contact with a guy who on the surface looked reasonable...... Then he turned into mr spamalot. Want to chatt???? 15 minutes later TOO busy???? it's okay you can just delete me 20 minutes later You still online ..not to busy now??? 10 minutes later You're beautiful chatt?? next day starts all over why don't you chatt, you are beautiful .i just checked you're widow so sorry I hope I didn't offend. Want to chatt?? want to chatt. YOu can delete me ( then proceeds to tell me how to block him) in to the evening Want to chatt??? now still too busy?? In a 24 hr period he contact me 15 times I only responded to 2 of them. And yes I could have blocked him but I wasn't annoyed, just amused, trying to figure out his game. And kinda imagining a feverish squirell type man in frenzied action over his keyboard. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest nonesuch Posted October 17, 2016 Share Posted October 17, 2016 Some of these posts have me literally laughing out loud. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
momtokam Posted October 17, 2016 Author Share Posted October 17, 2016 Haven't been on line much these days but I still have a giggle for you all. I had been chatting with someone in January and all seemed great until he went poof! He tried to start up again in March. I didn't give him the chance. He couldn't remember my name! Then this exchange this week on the dating site.... Him - I want you... It's XXX... you still have my number? Me- Seriously XXX? You had your chance and blew it! You probably still can't remember my name! Him- really... I don't think we spoke... Me- If we didn't speak, how could I have your number? Him- ok...so text me then...really like you.. Where is the face palm emoji? Here is my reply back.... I wish you could hear me laughing! I have an awesome laugh. Too bad you can't remember it and that you will never hear it again. 😁 Soooo....he didn't give up! 😁 Him- you lost my number...I want to hear you laugh Me- xxx-xxx-xxxx Him- lol...so text me...I signing off... Him- wow...still waiting...lol Me- Really? Hmm.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
momtokam Posted October 18, 2016 Author Share Posted October 18, 2016 Boy, changed one word in my profile and activity goes crazy. ... More giggles..... Him- Hi. Yes. You. Have hot. Legs. I like. All. Of. You. Xxxx. Today - 8:02pm Him- What's. Your. Name. Today - 8:07pm Him- Why. Are. Not. Talking. To. Me Today - 8:10pm Him- Ask. Me. Aim. Very. Nice. Guy. Italian Today - 8:18pm Me- I. Can. Read. Whole. Sentences. Too. Today - 8:29pm Him- Ok. Good. Let's. Meet. For. Coffey. Say. Yes. Today - 8:32pm Edited to add that after a few messages, where he continued his "full stop" approach, and looking at my profile 30 times, and still asking questions that are spelled out in my profile....He asks what kind of men I date. I asked what do you mean? He said White. Men. Or. Black. Men. I replied.... I. Found. Your. Last. Question. Offensive. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
momtokam Posted October 18, 2016 Author Share Posted October 18, 2016 Needy, I actually don't mind giving my number out . I find it weeds out people fast . Also once I have their number I can google and try to get some info. Usually not a lot since it's a cell , but I have gotten lucky on a few . Like the guy who said he was 50 and separated. When I put in his cell number in Google , it went to a resume which led to other things and he was 55 and married still. Hmmmm... Second thought, I get your trust issues .. Sorry ! If it doesn't feel right , don't exchange numbers . Sometimes cell phone searches can yield a lot of info and other times nothing. I try to wait a few messages before giving a cell to weed out the crazies, like the one above who gave his and asked me to text. I waited a few messages and I'm glad I did! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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