momtokam Posted June 25, 2016 Share Posted June 25, 2016 My life has been crazy busy this month. Work, life, kids, my mother....physically and emotionally draining. Then this week... My niece gave birth to a beautiful baby boy on Thursday. We did not know what the gender would be ahead of time. Some of the thngs I bought for her when we visited in the hospital, were with my DH in mind. A blue piggy bank for example...he loved and collected piggy banks. He was such a family person. He would have been beaming ear to ear had he been there to see her baby. We learned when we got there that the baby's middle name was my DH's...I did not expect that, and it really hit hard. Last weekend my DH's coworker was killed in a motorcycle accident. The funeral was yesterday. I felt this strong need to be there, in many ways more for his widow... I had met her years ago at a company awards dinner. My DH was killed on the job. She told me I was one of the first things she thought about when she was told about her husband. I hope I can be a source of support for her in some way. As I was sitting there, I watched the same men were lining up to pay their respects to her, that were lined up to pay their respects to me almost 4 years ago. I had not really thought about it, but it hit me hard. These same men, were so happy to see me, offering their hugs and thoughts of support and good wishes for me and my kids. I felt such a feeling of having a posse around me, like they would do anything for us that we needed. They already have done and supported us in so many ways since the accident. I guess having them there, all together as a group, brought everything back to me. It was so hard to leave, as someone else would spot me, when i tried to head home...it would start again. When I finally walked off, it was a very surreal moment, like I wanted to run back and hug them all again, and at the same time like I also felt ok to keep walking. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RobFTC Posted June 26, 2016 Share Posted June 26, 2016 Hi MTK, The juxtaposition of the new life and lost life must have been surreal. I'm so glad you weathered it all, and hope that that new widow can really let you help her. And a baby to keep your DH's name in memory, too. Hugs, as always! Take care, Rob T Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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