Oh ladies, thank you for sharing your stories, my heart goes out to you guys. Funny how our husbands were the ones who were our social butterflies. I used to be that person - crazy, when I met him he was the one that said, "geez, you know everyone!" lol I guess back then motherhood tamed my social cravings down a lot, and being he carried that part so well - I just simply stepped aside and enjoyed the colorful personalities he brought into our lives. Albeit it was tiring sometimes. Though after his passing I still tried to at least maintain relationships with those I felt close to. Now - I'm just numb.
@Trying, I've had the same thoughts as you, infact almost the same. I've kept this bubble around me so much now, what if something happens - I don't have much of a support system left either.
@Mrskro, so sorry you lost your Dad recently *big hugs*
@Bunny, wonderful insightful words again -thank you so much, and maybe you're totally right. I didn't think of it so profoundly that I may be dealing with her passing completely differently? I was also there with her when she left us, and it is something I am having trouble with as well. Perhaps as you suggested, a bereavement group is something I need to seek out too. It all seems like so much tho! I am usually quite strong, I feel so silly that I feel so off, and I'm unable to fix whatever is going on by myself! I hate bugging people too with my problems. I am a grown woman afterall. sigh...... You know, speaking about parents, I remember something that was said to me when I lost my husband; my father-in-law said, I can't even imagine your loss, not only was he your husband, but also he was like a father to you. I didn't understand him (I had a Dad - he was an amazing man), but he further said, well, it's like he raised you since you were a teen - that's a long time. I kinda wish he never said that because he was so right in a way. So yes, losing her and not having him to help me move on, has been so hard. I lost my Dad when I was pregnant with my 2nd child, so he was there during that time to push me forward. I am usually a very positive thinker, and I believe everything has a way of working out, I stop and smell the roses, and take in the beauty of everything that surrounds us. I believe in this - I have to. I appreciate every little thing I have and for the people who do love me, and are still here with me. So this road block has been a major downer, I am a downer.
So ladies here are a couple of things I am going to start first, now this is a bit late in the summer unfortunately.. but on a whim I went out and got myself an old motorhome, which I plan to just go and find new scenery, youngest in tow. I have wanted to just get away, but I couldn't get myself to move. Now I have no choice. I bought the beast, and I can't just let it sit right? I will be doing this alone with my youngest, so I'm scared of course. He took care of any trailers or MH's that we had in the past, I don't know a thing. With BF working out of town, this just works out great for Mother/daughter time. 2nd, I've decided to reach out to my church, it's been a really-really long time shamefully, but something about going every Sunday, might help as a small step to talking to new people. I hope if I can complete a couple things; I can reach out to the widows group I found in my area, they meet for coffee, lunch or sometimes activities - that sorta felt like too much in my face right now, so I will see how I am after a little vacation and church. Also after reading your suggestion Bunny, I will look into a bereavement group as well.
I'm so-so sorry I rambled Your thoughts and stories have really touched my heart and left me feeling not so alone.