floodavis

Hi all I've got to a point where I am ready to begin doing things for myself. This has resulted in me very luckily finding an amazing lady (nl) who I connect with and really enjoy being with. As there are children (mine) in the frame my 13 year old daughter I find myself grappling with the need to find a new life for me whilst protecting and being there for my family, I am finding these two areas are in direct conflict with one another, but I also feel to let one override the other will be a mistake. I have been very open about the new lady in my life and I know for this to move ahead I need to ensure I nurture this relationship which at times would result in making decisions that are perhaps not accepted or welcomed by my daughter. A recent example is trying to organise a weekend away with the nl, and organising family to look after my daughter has really had me feeling the guilts, something my daughter has also played on. Any shared experiences/words of wisdom would be welcomed. Dave

Hello to all recently lost my DW after a battle with cancer she was 37. I thought (yes delusional) going through a very difficult year that I was ready for her passing, it has come as such a shock and have been through so many emotions in such a brief time don't know what to expect next. I am seeing our 13 year old daughter cope so well early days but she has been my rock. Is great to find a site like this as locally (Perth Aus) it's like you're on your own and with little extended family close by loneliness is my biggest issue atm. Generally think we're doing ok but the unknown is pretty intimidating.