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Beyondlife, Yup, this would be me. Sometimes it is exhausting "being strong". Be safe and please report back to us.

Sorry to hear about your friends disappointing you. The same thing seems to happen to me as well. I have several "new" friends I've made since DH passed. It seems though that I'm always the one initiating get together or reaching out. I have one friend in particular where I thought we were close (since he's told me so), but he never seems to initiative texts or emails. Somedays I would just like a simple "thinking of you" text message. ANd when it doesn't come, I question our friendship and maybe we're not really such good friends because if we were, wouldn't he make more of a effort? Or maybe it's a guy thing and as a woman my expectations are unrealistic? I don't know but would love to hear a guys perspective. I guess all of this is to say I"m tired of "friends" disappointing me and it's just a reminder that I no longer have my best friend and that just makes me sad...

Abitlost and Wheeler's Wife, Thank you for your response and advise. It has helped me have direction and to see things more clearly.

Okay, I haven't posted here before. I've been lurking and reading but not officially signing up and posting anything. However, I've been struggling lately and I don't know where to turn. I can't talk to family and I'm afraid to bare my soul to my friends. My DH passed 3 yrs ago. I met a fellow wid who has become a good friend. We talk often and when we're together, it's comfortable. We're very good friends. But I have slowly found myself falling for him. On one hand, the "good" news is that I've learned I can open my heart to another when previously I thought that would be impossible. The "bad" thing is that he only sees me as a friend (has said so). I'm just having a hard time accepting this. I keep reminding myself to enjoy and appreciate our friendship but I keep hoping deep down he'll change his mind. So, my question is...should I simply cut my losses. I know it's not healthy for me to continue to "want" him but I can't fathom him not being in my life and being friends. I know this is not healthy for me. I'm just not sure what to do and I've never had to navigate these waters before. Any advice?