Widower40

I went to work 3 weeks after her death. Work is very supportive and my boss allows me to leave during the day if I need to. I enjoy my job and colleagues so it helps me. I have had a few tough days where I feel like I am not productive, but that is ok. Sometimes showing up is good enough. From what I read, grief can take months and years. I don't think me staying home any longer would have helped.

My wife died rather suddenly after a 2 day fight with pneumonia. She was 39. I just turned 40 in January. I have 2 wonderful daughters 3 and 6 which I now have to raise without their mother. I think the initial shock has worn off and now I am crying heavily 3 or more times a day. I miss her so much. While before I was running on adrenaline I feel more sad now. I am lucky to have amazing support from my In-laws, my parents and brother and friends so I don't feel like I am doing this alone. Anyone else go through something similar with two young kids? I've read people say that the initial shock lasts 6 months and the real grieving starts then... but I feel as if I have already started the heavy part of it. Anyone else feel the same after 7 weeks? Thanks