twistedmensa

That is good to hear. Sending prayers.

Sending some positive vibes your way.

Okay twistedmensa, I'm totally aroused thinking about beating around your bush. Did I say that out loud?

Tramp!

Indeed, it has been very stimulating; but I don't want to arouse curiosity by beating around the bush.  :-X

Maybe your hamster and my hamster need to run away together and leave us the hell alone.  I've been in a loop of beating myself up over a million little things this week so I can't give you advice but I can keep you company.

Can my hamster join?

Sorry to hear. Cancer sucks.

I'm three weeks away from two years. I know how you feel...or rather don't feel. The numbness permeates everything in my life. It's as if life has lost its flavor. I really just wish I could laugh like I used to.

Thinking of you.

So sad. I can't imagine what his mom must be going through.

Congrats on the new house and congrats on escaping Stepford.

Damn it! You people are killing me!

(don't stop)... ;D

I have been plagued by nightmares for most of my life, so the one advantage of having chronic insomnia is that I rarely sleep long enough to reach the REM cycle.  I'm perpetually exhausted, but essentially dream free.

I have the reusable K cups, too. I like the convenience of a single cup brewer, but hate the thought of filling a landfill with all of those cups.

My eldest is also going through this...she is 19 now and was 17 when DH died. They had a volatile relationship and he died so quickly after his diagnosis, that there was little chance for closure. DH was her stepfather; her father died when she was just a baby.

She has zero motivation and she drags her feet when it comes to anything resembling adult responsibility. She won't study to pass the test to get a learner's permit, she won't submit any job applications, she dropped out of school and now she won't do anything to earn her GED. She refuses to go to any sort of counseling, grief or otherwise. When I press the issue, it generally degrades into a fight with her threatening to live on the street and become a stripper. Last time she threatened, I told her to go....she backed down later that night.

I have no advice for you, as I am apparently failing miserably in a similar boat. But you aren't alone. Hugs.

I am so sorry, SB. I can't even imagine what that must be like. My mom and I are very close and always have been. But she has never really been one to meddle in my personal business. And she knows pretty much everything about my life right now since she is now living with me.

My husband was 17 years my senior...the age gap between myself and my daughter's father (he died in 1999) was a few years more. My mother used to tell me I was 13 going on 30 and that I had an 'old soul.' It doesn't seem to work in the opposite direction, though. Younger men just seem...well...younger...lol.

When I had a profile at a dating site, I got quite few hits from twentysomethings. My profile specified an age range from 45 to 55. While I'm willing to extend those ages a few years in either direction, I'm not ready to extend it that much. I aleady have two children....lol.

I have long bouts of sleeplessness and my circadian rhythm is completely out of whack. I don't know what it feels like to not be tired. I have no advice for you, as I'm losing the battle, but I totally get it.

I'm so sorry. Cyber hugs.

I took the kids to Sonic Drive-In for dinner, then came home and made a batch of apple crisp for dessert...so yummy!

I am so sorry that you are having to deal with this. Your feelings must be so conflicted. Cyber hugs.

It's been so long since I've opened the shutters, I'm not entirely sure I even have windows.

 

I've grown comfortable in the last 3.5 years "alone". I like being able to make life decisions by myself, pay my bills, buy things when I want without asking someone, go to bed when I want, watch what I want on tv, sit on the couch and zone out on the computer all day if I want to, stuff like that.

 

You took the words right out of my mouth. I recently removed myself from the two dating sites I had signed up for. I may change my mind in the future, but for now, I'm perfectly happy flying solo.

I am so sorry for your loss. There is a caring group of people here who understand.

The kids will probably watch the Walking Dead, but I'm not much into gore...I've seen enough of it in real life. I will get them a small box of chocolates and a little stuffed animal, same as every year. I've become awfully boring in my old age...lol.

 

And counseling is out. He won't consider it.

This is yet another red flag.