Indri

Just this very moment. I haven't been on the original board for years (so maybe I've actually been beyond active grieving for a while), so I haven't thought about the categories recently. So when I signed up, here, and I saw that, I thought, "wow, I'm beyond active grieving!". I never thought that I'd ever be in that category. This, of course, does not mean that I'm beyond grieving. It just does not consume my every moment. Occasionally something will trigger very intense grieving, and the significant dates can still be very painful (I just passed the 9-year anniversary of Tom's death). I'm living my life, I'm functioning well. I'm thinking of my future. I'm remembering the past, with fondness, and some sadness. I'm open to the possibility of a new relationship, but not actively seeking it. I have a good friend, a widower, with whom I thought we could have a future together. That didn't come to be, but we are still good friends. I still miss Tom, every day. But I don't grieve every day.