Ashliebelle

So, for update.... The decision to go to the mountains was definitely a Good one!!! It was beautiful and peaceful, almost made me want to move to there. I even slipped in a 'staycation' for the second week. Got some long-neglected household things caught up and the Christmas tree and decorations up. I felt so rejuvenated afterwards!!!! Now to tackle Christmas....

Thank you both!!! While at this point I do want to maintain a cordial relationship with 'the outlaws," I also am more inspired to do more of what I need to do this time of year than of what other people want. I have wanted for quite a while to rent a little cabin in the mountains for an extended weekend - and BOOM!!! The stars aligned and the angels sung and at the last minute I found a little cabin available for a price I could afford. The place is small, modest, and in a remote location.... and it has the amenities that made me jump at the chance of staying there (wifi, canoe, hot-tub). Now just to work out the final details.....

Not sure where to start, gonna be as clear and concise as possible.... On 5/27/11 I became a widow unexpectedly due to a motorcycle accident. We had two children together, at the time ages 8 and 13. My in-laws were kind of like second parents to me, I truly loved them and felt that they were really my family too. Feb. of 2012 made official that I had entered a relationship. Not the TrAdiTionAl timeframe, but long story short, I went with my gut on a friendship that developed into more than a mere friendship. He knew and was friends with the hubby, I could talk freely with him, to this day when I am grieving lost husband he listens and does not judge or make me feel bad for bringing it up, sometimes we even share memories of late husband. I don't want to spend Thanksgiving or Christmas with the 'in-laws' anymore. I don't want to mess up the childrens' relationship with them, but I am tired of trying...... I am so over it.....I never felt that they really accepted my new guy, MIL actually stated more than once that "you can fall in love with a rich man as easy as you can a poor man" I was speechless in person but did later make a post on facebook that I am not a golddigger (though not in those exact words) I have tried to maintain a decent relationship with them, but I am just tired of it. There are so many other things I could add, but I'm not trying to draw this out too long and generally they are good people, I'm just tired of being the 'poor little dear that should've found someone worthy of our acceptance'..... Fuck That!!!!! He's good to me, he's good to the kids, he's a Good Man even if he doesn't meet your fucking standards...