torian

I was talking with a (much) younger colleague at work who got married over Christmas. She's never been married. "How long were you engaged?" "About 3 weeks" Oh. "How long have you been dating each other?" "About three months." 5 years ago I would have told her she was crazy, but now there's a small part of me that can appreciate her motto, which is, "You never know how long you have and if you find love, you have to run with it and see where it goes." What are your thoughts given we have a unique perspective on life and love? Does widowhood make you even more cautious or does it make you throw caution to the wind?

Not sure if many here remember me, but I was on the old forums before they removed them - and I only now realized that this one got up and running in its place! I blame my widow brain (comes in handy sometimes!) Anyway, the reason why I was seeking my wid friends out was that I have...gulp...news. I have a boyfriend. Wow...still feels weird to say that - in a good way - but still weird. Do you even call him a 'boyfriend' at our age? LOL. He's amazing . After a year's worth of crappy first dates, he showed up when I wasn't looking. Go figure! I honestly thought I'd never find another man who could fit me the way DH did - he set the bar pretty damned high. But NG has. And I think if DH was still alive, he and NG would actually be friends (this isn't to try to dispel any guilt, because weirdly, I don't have any!). My kids like him, and he likes them, too. And he's incredibly supportive and understanding of my wid status. I think the only issue I've had so far is the reentry of using the words, 'we', 'us', 'our' again after a long time of 'me', 'I', and 'my'. Getting used to the idea that there can be someone to rely on again (as much as one can, knowing that nothing is permanent). LOL...now I'm babbling! Anyway, will be looking to those who have gone before me to help navigate into my Ch2. I still can't believe I get one.... Tori

Not only do I find out that the YWBB has been resurrected (I live under a rock, it seems!), but I find out that a widow I hold in high esteem has found her ch2???? Amazeballs!!!! Congrats, Mimi!!!