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I know it was a deliberate deception on his part.  My mistake that I left this out.......everything centered around sex.  Conversations in person, via text, telephone.  All sex.  He pushed the subject constantly.  It was very clear after a week what he was crazy about and it wasn't me.  It was what I could offer him from the waist down.  

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I think a lot of people believe in love at first sight, especially men. If all he talked about was sex though I highly doubt that was the case. My LH said it was love at first sight for him. It wasn't for me. I think there can be an instant connection, but love grows. I've had this conversation multiple times with male and female friends. It's interesting hearing everyone's opinions on the topic.

 

I've been seeing someone exclusively for a little over a month now. It's moving faster than I typically do, but it feels very comfortable. Almost to good to be true. He believes in love at first sight. :)

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That's awesome Virgo.  And I knew two weeks after I met DH, and so did he.  But there was no push to jump in the sack right away.  I knew he was genuinely interested in me.  It's a gut thing, and I'm going to listen to it.  Oh, and he texted me again, with no change on his part.  Just taking my temperature to see if I'd changed my mind and was panicking because he'd disappeared.  I made it very clear, I had not!

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He sounds persistent, wow! Tell him to lose your number. 

 

My guy told me last night that I really need to learn how to relax. That I don't have to do everything by myself anymore. 

 

It has been so long since someone has really considered my needs. It feels good. 

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Ok, friended guy on FB.  Scammers abound on dating site.  He is legit.  We have a common friend. Guy is just chatting. Not really stating he wants to date me. We have some political views that do not align.  So, he still is texting.  But this week, asks for pics.  Um, I have plenty on my FB page.  No NOW pics.  Nope, in bed right now.  I like those kind.  This quickly changes to him asking me sexually explicit things.  I am not a prude, but really!  No face to face yet and jump there.  I don't know much at all about him.

So, ditched him.  I am not going to be some guys rub out.  GEEZ!  Do they think you don't mean what you say?  

 

Not for the faint of heart.  I am laughing with friends about it.  I sent screenshots of many to my friends.  Do they look at the pics they post?  my world.....

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13 hours ago, tybec said:

I am not going to be some guys rub out.

 

I’m laughing very hard right now. This should be your signature. 😂

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On 12/9/2019 at 11:13 PM, Virgo said:

Almost to good to be true. 

It was. I was right.

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7 hours ago, Virgo said:

It was. I was right.

Sorry to hear that.  Sucks to be right sometimes.  

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On 12/26/2019 at 11:35 AM, tybec said:

  GEEZ!  Do they think you don't mean what you say?  

"No" or "I'm not interested" with those kinds of guys, to them, means try harder.

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I'm back to feeling uninterested and flippant about dating. A little numb actually. Not down, just done. I'm tired of being disappointed. 

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Virgo, I go thru those phases.  Depends on how much energy I have.  I went out with a guy that is 12 years younger than me on Saturday night.  Zzzzzzzzz  couldn't get out of the restaurant fast enough.  There was a guy next to us and we chatted some about the Titans Ravens game.  Here he's on the dating site, messaged me the next day, and asked me out.  Pretty funny, but not my type.  I date now just for something to do :) 

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I let my subscription go and canceled. I had one date, and he was all over me. And then most of  the men I talked to went straight to sex talk. And a few I chatted with that seemed like good options were so busy with their lives, I did not understand how they could be on a site.  A nice widower but he had 8 kids, 8 kids I say. His mother had moved in to help him care as he internationally traveled for work.   Nope, too much.  And I had a nice man who I finally pulled from him he was disabled and living with his mother who needed assistance.  NO, I was a care taker for 11 yrs. to my mother, the last 5 yrs. by myself.  Not ready to take on someone else's mother and him, possibly, too. And then I had the stalker guy that would not take no for an answer. He had lived in the same town I am in prior and contacted me on the site he was here on a Friday and wanted to meet me for lunch to talk.  This was after 3 weeks prior I said no thanks, and he kept texting me wanting an explanation, and then I blocked him after still saying no thank you.  I spoke to him twice on the phone. Never said anything sexy, just was polite, trying to get to know him. He freaked me out some.  A break for a bit. Get my head on straight. Do some things for my health and then I will see. 

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Tybec, that's a good plan.  I do the same at times.  Take breaks for awhile.  I have a busy life, so sometimes it's nice not to have to feel obligated to do the whole chit chat and meet thing.

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I'm still on my break too. Just focusing on home improvement projects and myself. I occasionally go out on lunch dates, but I'm not looking for it to progress into anything. It's just food with company for me at this point. 

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