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Tweety76

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  • Date Widowed
    March 2014
  • Cause of death
    sudden heart death (not attack)

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  1. I had bunny name Sulo (graceful in Finnish) when I met my DH. Gave him up for a better home 2 years in to the relationship. 1,5 years after DH passed I adopted my friend's 15yo catqueen who then passed away 6 months later (British shorthair/Persian mix). Loved her to death. 2 months later I became the proud mom of 2 white Persian boys: Milton and Tigger. So here we are the three of us :) I wouldn't change a day with the boys! I wish I knew how to post a pic of my babies here :) but trust me, they are fantastic! (plus I ended up fullfilling my childhood dream 200% when I got them :D I didn't remember but I had wished to have a white Persian and now I've had 2 for 2+ years)
  2. I haven't posted much in recent years. Some of you may remember me, some may not. To those, not, sorry you are here. This year hasn't been easy for me. Dad nearly died twice but is still here. What was hard for me to see was mom's anguish while being a nearly widowed. I coudn't say anything as it's too much I know.. I bought my very first home out of a whim. And it has turned out changing me somewhat back to what I was before my Heikki, to the time I was with him and to this new I didn't know was possible. Don't get me wrong, at the eve of my Husband's 47th BD I'm vary but fine. This board (and it's predecessor) gave so much to me and I'm happy to report back that this little widda, is doing fine (although having the mandatory constant of what will go wrong next -thought as this cannot be happening to me!!!) Love doesn't go away. Humans have strong survival skills. All in due time.
  3. @Hatchi a post worth the ones I saw 3 years ago in the original board. Such great words we know are true. Thank you <3 Been there, done that and moving forward
  4. Congratulations TooSoon!!!!!!! Won't be participating there but will celebrate on my own location
  5. Monique: I'm so sorry you have to go through that in addition to the terrible loss you have experienced. Very unjust! You are a widow just as much as the next person who lost their loved one. Legalities in this day and age are only blast from the past that at least in my country are being fixed/made more just to the various forms of partnership. I've had this discussion with many non-married widows and it's heartbreaking everytime. This is a peer support group for widows which does in my mind include non-married widows. If a widow/widower comes and slaps that "you are not a widow because you weren't married", I'd be shocked. That would be the worst insult ever. From a non-widow I do understand the ignorance and bad manners but from a fellow widow/widower, never and quite frankly at least here, I've never seen it and I'd rather not see it. Having read Mizpahs story and knowing what I felt about widow -term, I started to think that could it be a form of denial based on legalities to make it easier to take also for your mother? The Mizpah's example person refuses to be called a widow based on legalities, I didn't want to be called a widow even we were married, so could it be that seeing you in pain is too much for you mother so she takes the easy road (and hurtful one) of denying the term from you because it hurts her (and no! I am not defending her. This is just my thinking) Big hugs to you Monique and good (yet I'm sorry that you had to) that you found us. Someone once said this is the greatest group of people you never wanted to meet.
  6. I admit. I was pushing myself from category to the next. then I reached the 1 year mark and thought I was ok. The h''l I was. but I learned that part only months sometimes years after. I'm still vary of that I got this brainiac (is that even a word) idea of looking flats near my sister and 1,5 weeks later I owned one. Lot's of renovations (building muscles and all but breathing easier). I'm fine being the crazy cat lady that moves next to family (we are forming a collective). Strange thing is, I'm feeling easier to breath, I can look into the future and still be a tad bit anxious No men involved (if you don't count my boys) Tweet reporting back
  7. Like no! Assaulting a person is never accepted! Grief does weird things on us but that truly too much and you do not deserve that. Calling the police was the right thing to do. Are you safe now?
  8. @Jen Hugs!!!! Fuck this shit! Why the fuck did my cat have to die just 6 days short of the second sadiversary of DH's death? Why the fuck does March has to be such a fucked up month in the 2010 decade? I used to love March because I have a birth day then. Why the fuck I'm tired and gloomy all the time? what the fuck is wrong with me? Why the fuck can't I have back the face I loved so much (yeah, looking at pics). AAAARGH! fuck this shit!
  9. Now why is it, that when you turn someone down, they have to sucker punch you with inventive insults? Like, wow, thanks...
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