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8 minutes ago, rifatheroffour said:

I can make April 7th or 13th work as well.

Thanks for the quick reply.  We have now eliminated March.  Maybe Donna P and Mr. Drew or MyRiver will decide between the two April weekends.

Either the last weekend of March or one of the next two in April.  If you are interested let me know which weekend works best.

Ashby is North central MA, on the NH border.

This is short notice.  My regrets but due to circumstances beyond my control.  yada yada

Thank you for this thread Bluebird.  I am sorry that your second loss came too soon.  I am interested in your progress and hoping to see good things for your future.  I am in the process of joining your company as a two timer.  NG is losing her battle too quickly.  I am reliving events of 7+- years ago in many ways, same hospital, even some of the same nurses and Drs.  But things are also completely new.  NG is the greatest woman I ever knew.  Her courage right now is inspirational.  She knows that she will lose this battle but that does not equal giving up.  She is not going gently into that good night.  I am honored to know her and humbled to have received her love.

It has been almost 7 years since I lost DW.  I am currently losing NG who has been in my life 2 ½ yrs. for me that “dark swamp” is back but not in the same ways. I survived the journey through it the first time and I will get through it this time.  

My heart breaks for you Ben1437.  You are close enough in age to be my granddaughter.  I like to think that if I did have a granddaughter in your position that she would be angry.  It's a healthy normal reaction to when everything just sucks.  

Widda is precious to me just now.  I re-coupled 2 1/2 years ago.  Around the end of September we learned that NG has stage IV cancer.  She is fighting but the prognosis is not good.  I'd give up bacon sooner than I'd give up WIDDA.

You absolutely will survive this dark swamp.  I just went through most of what you've posted and I see real progress.

The most obvious sign of progress to my eye is that you "hope to be able to help others".  A noble purpose gives meaning to life.  You are 1/2 way there.  Hold onto that attitude  

I found NG about 2 ½ years ago.  

I am losing her already.

If I could go back 2 ½ years I would not change a thing.

I made that same promise others mentioned.  That I would not leave her unless she asked me to. I am very glad I made that promise. 

22 hours ago, Sillyjerkycat said:

Hello.

Hello Cindy, Thank you for that very lovely opening post.  It does the heart good to know you’ve gotten some comfort here at WIDDA. 

Ive got a hunch that you will do well moving through these horrible early days. 

Peace and comfort to you in 2019

L2F

I am so grateful that you are doing this WW.  And I'm grateful that Myriver is going to be my designated driver.

Any wid between North central MA and the bago is welcome to ride with us.  We have empty seats in the suv.

I thought my chances of making it on Sat were vanishingly small but they have improved tremendously.  The chances now are just small. NG and Myriver both think I should go. Myriver even offered to cover for me at home so I could!  

 NG thinks that it would be a great time for her to visit friends in Monson so if she’s able to ride that far I’ll drop her off and pick her up after. If that’s how it works out we might haul Myriver along with us as well. 

On 9/17/2018 at 7:55 PM, Wheelerswife said:

I’m a little disappointed that I haven’t received accolades for my fire fighting skills. Just saying....

I forgot to mention.  I was also hoping that my condo would not burn down.  

I am indebted to you WW. 

I was not at all sure what a bago was or could be but I had hopes.  I hoped everyone would be easy to get along with, kind and thoughtful towards each other, good listeners when it was time to listen and honest speakers when it was time to talk.  I hoped there would be lots of easy smiles and a little space for tears. I hoped that when it was over I would feel like my family was a little bigger.  Maybe a new brother or sister.

I am recently informed we also have pastry, cheese & crackers, fruit, more eggs, peanut butter, coke & diet coke, bottled water.

CW & WW, You will find basic condiments, butter, olive oil, etc. already there as well as bagels & cream cheese, english muffins, ham, peppers, etc.  

6 hours ago, DonnaP said:

What do people feel like doing? Cooking in? Getting take-out? Going out? The swimming pool sounds like a nice option to me if the weather stays nice!

We picked up a few snacks today.  Have not planned any meals but if anyone wants to cook that will be possible.  Plenty of good restaurants close by or we can do takeout and eat at the condo.  We will probably decide that as a group Saturday afternoon.  BYOB at the condo.

Maybe a walk on the Marginal Way in Ogunquit would be a fun way to spend the afternoon.  Or the beach, or a woodsy walk through Laudholm Farm.

The day should be mid 70s and  60s overnight.  

Anyone who is staying over should make sure I have your name.  Please send me a private message if I don't already have it.  I will give that to the office and they will issue you a keycard.

The weather is going to be in our favor!  

Two week bump

We still have semi private quarters for 2 or 3 ladies to overnight and lots more space for day visits. 

You have been listened to New.  It’s good that you have your kids. Taking care of them is taking care of you. You’ve got so much you are dealing with at just two months!

 I like that you acknowledge your privileges. I hope you can use them for good and by that I mean prosper in all things good for you and your kids. 

9 hours ago, mizjsea said:

I am jumping in late but I also would like to come. Won't need a place to stay, and coming for Saturday and Saturday night. Yes, thanks for initiating! 

 

Penny 

You are not late Penny,  

september 16 would be late. 😉

i am happy you will be joining us. 

Friday night is Kareoke night at the Irish Pub about 1 mile north 

Mikes Clam Shack has a live singer - guitar player Ray Zerkle. About ½ mile south

A trigger and a loss at the same time Fredrick.  What a crappy twofer. 

I can’t add much to what the others have said Sc39.  They are all wise and compassionate. I’d just like to thank you for mentioning trouble remembering him. I had the same symptom but I was so ashamed of it that I never told anyone. It felt like I was a bad husband. I no longer have that happen and I had forgotten it was ever an issue for me. 

Be well and continue to,visit here.

3 hours ago, donswife said:

I think I could also come saturday /saturday night 

40 minutes ago, myriver said:

Is there room for any more?  I am interested.

We are in no danger of exceeding any limits. I am so happy that you are coming!

we are meeting in a condo at Village by the Sea in Wells.  I will PM you with the details. 

3 hours ago, Captains wife said:

Is there a bar nearby ? : )

 

Yes there is. We might need a designated driver or we could get “take out”  🍺🍹🥃🥂🍷