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    Re: Western MA Bago - CHANGE OF DATE (to Sat May 14th)

    in Widowbago Meetings

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    Hi guys!

     

    MrDrew and I would love to join you. I'm pretty sure we can make either date work, so just go with whatever works best for you (host privilege). Also let us know what we can bring to help out.

     

    It will be nice to see everyone. We are smack in the middle of our sadiversary time, too. Andrew lost Donna on March 27; I lost Mick on April 1.

     

    So, hell-yeah, let's BAGO!

     

    Woosta BAGO - take two -- HOWABOUT FEBRUARY ??

    in Widowbago Meetings

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    Sounds like we are a GO for Feb. 28!

     

    I will contact the Manor and make a tentative reservation. Here's who I think will be coming:

     

    DonnaP

    MrDrew

    Donswife

    Hachi

    RIFOF

    Guaruja

    Mizjsea

     

    Anyone else around? Let me know so I can give them an accurate head count. It's very laid back there. We can order pub food and drinks and just visit. Looking forward to seeing everyone!

     

    DonnaP

    Blog Post: "It gets better and you're not alone"

    in General Discussion

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    Great post!

     

    I think, more than anything else, the words of hope are what we all need. To know that things will somehow get better over time.

     

    I'm more than five years out now. It seems like the blink of an eye. And, yes, I still get those waves that Steph talks about. I can't even predict what causes them. Sometimes, it is just a memory or something that reminds me of Mick. Other times, if things are challenging, I miss having him by my side. He was a great sounding board and we saw eye to eye on so many things, especially pertaining to our children. I miss having that one other person who loved my children as much as I do, and only wants to see them succeed and be happy!

     

    Like in Steph's dream, I often wish I could have a long conversation with Mick again. If only...

     

    HUGS,

    Donna

    Woosta BAGO - take two -- HOWABOUT FEBRUARY ??

    in Widowbago Meetings

    Posted

    Those of us who attended the CT BAGO are hoping for some more wid-interaction soon. How does February work for everyone? We are available for a February BAGO on any of the following dates:

     

    Sunday, Feb. 14 (yes, I know it is Valentine's Day, but that doesn't mean much to us wids, and perhaps people need a distraction)

    Sunday Feb. 21

    Sunday, Feb. 28

     

    Noontime start at The Manor in West Boylston.

     

    What say you, wids??

    my niece wrote this poem

    in General Discussion

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    Sharing a beautiful poem written by my niece, who was widowed in 2010:

     

    In a dream...

     

    I said to him "who will look after me, now that you're gone?"

    He smiled back and said "don't be scared, I will still look after you, though it will be from the skies above"

     

    "Who will hold me tight and dry these eyes from the tears that won't stop falling?"

    A tear fell on his cheek and as he wiped away he said "if you close your eyes and take a deep breath you will feel my touch and hear my voice that sings to you while you are sleeping"

     

    "Who will hold my hand and bring a smile to my face?"

    He held out his hand and said "When you think of me and our days together you will smile again, give it time and you will see, I'm right there beside you but just in another place"

     

    "Who will love me when my days are dark and I lose my way?"

    A light shined on my face and he said softly "my beautiful, my love and light will last forever even though I could not stay."

     

    "Who will take away the pain and mend my broken heart?"

    He sighed and said "my dear, the pain I caused you is much to deep, this I know, but if you look to the sky you will see me, though we are worlds apart.

     

    "Who will grow old with me the way you promised me you would?"

    "For that is a question I can not answer Love, but I will tell you this...

     

    "In time, your heart will open again. And the love you felt for me, you will feel for another. The pain and anger you hold onto inside, you will learn to let it go. As your heart mends and the cracks begin to fill, you will learn to trust again, and when you let another man into your heart, be open and honest with him, let him see all the things that I see, let him love every part of you the way I do. If you give him the chance, he will look after you when I'm gone, he will hold you each night and dry the tears that fall down your cheek, he will bring the smile back to your face and the laughter back into your life, and when your days are dark, he will love you and guide you to a brighter place. My dear, as you love him more each day, the pieces of your heart will slowly put themselves back together. Do not worry my love, I will always be a part of you, in your mind, in your sole, and in your heart. Now get some sleep sweet girl, tomorrow is a new day, embrace it with all you've got."

    -R.Kay

    Connecticut...

    in Widowbago Meetings

    Posted

    Sunday works better for us too! And we are fine either holding it at the winery or Kate's! Both are super convenient -- I think you should get a head count and then decide. If it's too many to handle in Kate's home, then move it to the winery. I'm sure Gouveia will be all decked out for the holidays...

     

    Whatever the verdict, Kate, it was very generous of you to offer up your home as the location!

    Looking forward to seeing everyone!

     

    DonnaP and MrDrew

     

     

    advice on quitting a job vs getting fired

    in General Discussion

    Posted

    ^^^ There are other considerations than unemployment, though. Getting another job will likely be easier if you can honestly tell an interviewer that you resigned instead of were fired from your last job.

     

    Yes. That is our biggest consideration. He does not want to have to lie on job applications and he does not want to have to admit and then explain why he was fired.

    advice on quitting a job vs getting fired

    in General Discussion

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    It's becoming real... he is getting ready to give his resignation on Monday. That is just one week from the "date of separation" if he waited out his probation period.

    From what I've read and heard, he can still collect unemployment if he resigns in lieu of being let go. If anyone knows anything more on this, I'm all ears...

    Next Time

    in Beyond Active Grieving

    Posted

    Yes - we do. I can attest to the fact that I don't let the little things bother me anymore. Stuff that might have sparked an argument with my first husband doesn't happen in my new relationship. We talk about EVERYTHING, so before something becomes an issue, we can handle it together. Plus, we are both way more laid back than when we were younger.

    Health & Fitness

    in General Discussion

    Posted

    I have been working on a Wellness challenge at work. For the month of October, we were challenged to do 1000 reps of some form of exercise. I chose jumping jacks. I'm nearly done - just 40 more to go tomorrow and I've reached the goal. Next month, I intend to ramp it up with some weights!

     

    :)

    advice on quitting a job vs getting fired

    in General Discussion

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    Thanks for all the wonderful advice. It helps a LOT to know that this isn't the end of the world -- even though, to my son, it feels that way. He feels like a big loser, even though I keep telling him he is not! He does not have any saved vacation or sick time, as he has used it all. And 30 days is not really enough time to pay off all his debt (he has student loans that I'm helping him with), but we will do what we can. I told him he always has the option to move home for a while to save money instead of paying rent. I hope he is using his time wisely. Finding a new job can take some time, unfortunately :(

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