marriedwithkids77

I love reading your histories

I agree

Sounds like he's getting cold feet for some reason. I bolded the one section because I think it's important to how you proceed. Do you really want to give him the power to decide when it seems like he's more of an inertia kind of guy? I'm not sure an ultimatum is in order, but... well, maybe it is. You've got the leverage in knowing you would be okay on your own and you know where you want this to go. Maybe it's time that you forced the issue? So true

Thanks for sharing!

Important issues brought up here - thanks! I certainly understand you being a bit put out regarding the 3 days of no talking while NG on vacation. But, could this simply be a function of the differences between men and women? Many guys don't need, or perhaps even want, the level of tagging up that many women want. I'm not suggesting that anyone is right or wrong here, only that it may be due to differences in personality. As to the level of attention NG showers upon his kids when they are around - he may feel some underlying guilt as a result of the breakup of his first marriage and he overcompensates when he has his children. Who knows? Just a thought. SB, you mentioned NG may be compartmentalizing various aspects of his life. That is very possible - as a group, men oft times do that. Rightly or wrongly, we view it as a feature, not a bug within our lives. It seems everyone involved here will have to compromise a great deal in order to have this relationship be a happy, successful one. Everyone, on both an individual level, and as a couple, must decide what they are willing to give in to and what they will not. Each of us will have our unique 'line' that must be reached to feel comfortable. I guess the trick is to find where the line is and is that compatible with what the other person can live with and that's where the communication aspect comes into play. Blending isn't for sissies - Good luck - Mike I agree

So true

Lovely couple!!

You guys look great