Mangomom

Were you able to locate this article? I have saved this one and three others that I share with any new widow or their friends. I’m happy to repost it. I also have many fond memories of the lifeline this forum was for me in the earliest of days. I am now 10 years on this journey and life is so much different than I ever imagined. I stumbled back into this page looking for an essay about wedding rings and wedding photos I remember from so many years ago. About reserving the right to always wear them and display them when needed. Anyone remember that one?

That’s just as scary!! What if I pick wrong? I’m kind of kidding, but this is always what my head says. I absolutely miss having someone who always had my back, regardless the direction I picked. It has really shook my foundation.

Hi all, i was an active poster a few years ago, then fellow the radar. DH is gone 6 years and I have managed two failed serious relationships. I can't seem to make a decision or a commitment to ANYTHING in my life this many years out. I was able to hide behind my kids for a few years - "I'll get to me when they go to college" They both just left for their sophomore and senior years at university last week and I am right back to the total bewilderment of who I am and what I want. I have an albatross of a house that I can't commit to fixing or selling. I have two wonderful exes who would still love to make it work that I just can't love "enough" I think I want to go back to school, but nothing is interesting enough for me to pursue as a career. You see the problem here? I know only I have the answers, but I am once again reaching out to my tribe to get some feedback and maybe hear that I am not crazy, that you have felt this and there is a light at the end of this current tunnel :)

Bummer. Way too much going on that weekend. Have fun!

And I am bringing along a "plus one". Surprise! You can all meet my chapter two who is also "in the club".

Packing my bag. Will be in a NY state of mind in a few hours

I could eat a HUGE juicy medium rare steak right now since I just came back from a long run... Out for a walk/run or Out for a bike ride Off to find some red meat protein in this house. I shouldn't be so open to suggestion...

And guess what came in the mail today? The finalized registration. So, I filled it out, wrote a check AND mailed it, all with no recollection. I made sure to put it right in the glove box. Now I'm off to find the Calgon...

DISCLAIMER: Not for the faint of heart!

I think you should look it up on Urban Dictionary. I think Gracelet might be in for a wild ride if she actually meant Box...

I have an acquaintance who lost a child (senior) at the beginning of this school year. The whole family is devastated and the younger son (8th grade) has missed ALOT of school because Mom just doesn't get him up or he doesn't feel like going. By law, the school had to report her and send registered letters, etc. While they understood the situation, they have a legal responsibility. In your case, it sounds like it goes beyond that. The school employee who reported it must have taken creative license and offered opinion, rather than fact, regarding your mental health. That is wrong. I would certainly contact a lawyer to discuss the situation. Not to sue anyone, but to find out how you can legally go about making this right. In the meantime, there are only a couple of months left in the school year. Try to make a good faith effort to get your son to school, so they have no further information to report. It is so hard to navigate our own way through this hell. Having to be the leader through it for our kids is downright terrifying. I wish you the best

There are two "professional widows" that I follow online. One Fit Widow Non Profit and Second Firsts. Both women have lost husbands and are using their personal experience to help others. That is what we do here. It just so happens that these women have gained support from people and organizations outside their circle of friends. I don't begrudge either of these women for taking a center stage in the grief world. They both have a huge message to share and are privileged to have such a public forum. As a matter of fact, our own "Wifeless" was just published on one of their websites as a featured author. Good for him to be a able to share his beautiful message that we have been blessed to already read and even pass along to other people who are in need of the support.

Why is it so hard for us to just tell people "I really don't want to discuss it."? I find myself giving more details than I really should because once the gate is open, its hard to close it. On the few occasions that I encountered someone emotionally intrusive, shutting them down is kind of satisfying, because you can see the frustration on their face when they are not given access to your private thoughts. Soccer Mom is more than likely an "emotional bully" without even realizing it. She certainly doesn't mean to cause you pain, but just wants all the juicy details. And it sounds like she uses those details to quantify your grief compared to hers. I could be completely over reading your soccer mom, but that is generally the case with the ones I run into.

Have dates been discussed? I have been bitten by the bago bug This one looks fun.

Serpico!! You could charge per word to help us write our profiles! You know what men want to hear and you can make it grammatically pleasing win/win!