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So I have been taking all of your advice. But this person is still "pushing" themselves into some conversations, and/or starting another one when not included. Like a 5 year old having to have the last word! This is NOT a person one can have a talk with, as many will defend them because of their boo hoo oh poor me attitude. 

I just know if it's making me crazy, it has to be making others crazy to when talking about something and this person ALWAYS makes about them!

Again, thanks to those of you who gave some great advice

coming up on 12 years and it still feels like yesterday, we never get over it, just learn how to live with it. until we can be with them again....

3 hours ago, trying2breathe said:

Interesting arneal, the dynamics of your mom's relationships.  I wonder what her long term companion's thoughts would be on this.  Maybe they are coupled but without a romantic connection? NG has referred to me a few times as a good companion, and for our relationship I don't like the term. To me it implies that we've partnered for practical purposes and without much of a romantic connection.  Makes me wonder if coupling at this stage of life is more about the practicalities - the emergency contact, etc.., and less about the romance.

T2B, I read this and thought WOW! Do both of you have young children? Just one of you? 2028, really? How old is he? What???  Companion???? Are both of you in your 90's?

I just turned (omg, dare I say) last week 55, and I still want romance in my life! I still miss the way my dh would kiss and touch me.

I'm still VERY much alive and want romance and SEX!!!

I'm sitting here feeling very sad by what I read, I don't want a relationship with someone who is disrespectful to me, that is why I divorced the last guy, but there is a difference of being lonely verses being alone....

Best of luck to you....

Thanks everyone! 😁

😊 sounds so great!

I need help in how to handle a person who every time something is said around them, no matter the subject or situation they make it about them!

It is making me and others bat s**t crazy!!!

So many people think she is soo sweet, but some of her comments to pat herself on the back, and or turn all conversations around to be about her is making some

want to say something that could be taken in a hurtful way, and they and I want to shove her away. Not push, but SHOVE...

How would you guys handle this?

so who is who in the pictures???

1 hour ago, Wheelerswife said:

 If I could figure out how to post a picture, I would!  

Who YOU??? 😳😊, glad to hear it was a great time for everyone. Was sad that I had to miss it....

Was just thinking about you last night and wondering how you and all of this was  going... Thank you for the much wanted and needed update Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers!

Now, now Mike careful a certain moderator will scold you for stating the obvious that this person is trolling this site as a "dating" site!

He has clearly stated he is joining the sovereign cult that has been moving through our country, which those of you who don't know about it, please look it up and read about it. It's disturbing!

He has also made it very clear that he is advertising for a very subservient woman!

He has shown his rudeness to those who have tried to show time and kindness to him, and as I've said to him before , if he is only living behind a computer 24/7 then he by now knows all the dating sites out there!

Just saying.....

TROLL

Also, look at some of the wording like the (duh's) and such at other posters who were kind enough to respond to him. Just saying.....

Time for some troll spray around widda.org ?

I'm sorry, but after reading alllll of his postings all he talks about is wanting to recouple with a subservient mate! 

Am I the only one seeing this?

If he is not leaving his house and only living on a computer, then join a dating site! There are so many different types out there now!!!

AND HE WOULD KNOW THAT BY NOW!

I posted in the other area (beyond first year) on here too! Find a church with subservient woman of his liking!

Otherwise , honestly, I think he might be a troll.....

Come on people, something isn't right here!!!!

22 hours ago, Christopher said:

I need companionship and community even today. My only friend is a computer and my son knows only solitude. I cannot seem to connect with anyone anymore and most of them look at me like I am a terrorist for trying to initiate a dialogue face to face without meeting them through electronics first. I hate this world so much now.

 

If only there was some way, some means to connect with others without drugs, alcohol or wanton sexual immorality involved... some place that isn't a bar, rave, country club or whatever else I keep getting told to go to to find companionship and possibly that intimate relationship I need so badly... if only there was some way... some means...

GO TO CHURCH!

Christopher sounds like you are looking for the perfect subservient woman! The best place to find one like this is certain types of churches...

Now I'm not putting down all churches, or people. There are those who like to live in a subservient life style, but this is a time where women have struggled and fought for equal rights!

Also, I will add most of us here do truly understand the suddenness of loneliness. I do agree with PaulZ that you are laying it on thick, and I will again suggest that for you that you find a church that practices a subservient life style....

Best of luck to you.

YOU GOT THIS! So happy for you ☺️, keep us posted....

You got it rooshy, sending prayers to all of your family and (((hugs))) …. 

Thank You for your service! My husband as well as my dad were veterans too, so please say hi to him as you pass him on the other side.

My son is a veteran too!

May God ease the pain of grief for your family....

I hope I can offer this suggestion to all three of you. 

If you find that you are comparing all the time, then know deep in your hearts you are NOT ready for dating!

That is not fair to the person you are dating or to yourself.

This person you are seeing is NEVER going to be able to measure up or fill those empty shoes! There is nobody that can! Sorry.

When you go out with someone, and you find that you are having a good time with that person and you find the things about them enduring, and the comparing has stopped, then go forward and have a great time and life. But right now you are not being fair to these people or yourself.

Sorry everyone, I know the loneliness sucks.....

New I'm so sorry that you have endured so much abuse. I get it. I grew up in abuse too. Do you have any friends or at least one who can watch your kids so you can go to a hospital 

and check yourself in for some much needed help. Do this for yourself and for your kids that you love so much.

And vent away here.

I will keep you in my prayers, and know that it can get better, even if it feels like it takes a long time, but you can do it.   ((( hugs )))

I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers Rooshy. You got this! ☺️ Go in there knowing how many of us are there in spirit with you!!! 

(((hugs)))

10 hours ago, StillWidowed said:

  If I'm meant to recouple, the right one will come along.

I lived my life by this statement  sw, and I still got burnt and got burnt badly! So if they are a dog , they are a dog! 

They (my ex and his ex ) were separated, and she was living in a different state. I made it clear I wouldn't date until divorce was done and over. He did that! 

His "mother"  got a little involved, and I spoke up to him and said "no way" at our age. I broke up and made it clear that he needed to decide what he wanted now that we both had grown kids. He came crawling back. A year later we married.

2 years in he started having tantrums, name calling, and I mean disgusting names, hitting walls and putting holes in the walls (my house).

You get the picture, and wondering why I wasn't warm and fuzzy wanting to have sex after his tantrums?

Well I had my suspicions that he was cheating, and I was right! And that was before he started the abuse.

That's why I put his ass out and divorced him!

So, I guess my point is even when we think we are going about it right, it can still turn out wrong.....

11 hours ago, Sugarbell said:

You are not a doormat. 

You get what you allow! So yeah you are a doormat if you let yourself be a doormat!  Just saying... Be the change you want!

So sorry to hear this  rooshy. Just remember when these people are pointing their fingers at others they have 3 pointing back at themselves!

This is a time for you to move on to better things for YOU ! Wishing you the best, holding you up in my thoughts and prayers...

Sending you lots of cyber (((hugs)))