nat

i am so so sorry to hear that. it is a tragedy. i dont know what to say other than thay i lost my beloved husband 3 weeks ago too. he died slowly during 4 months and suffered in vegetable mode dying quickly seems to me now a "blessing" . you are so young though. i want the best for u and your kids. wshing u also a easy birth sinding u love from israel

thanks again Beth- i saw your message and answered

Dear Beth your reply really moved me- thank u so much i needed these authentic approach and understanding. i sent you a PM can yopu look at it please? nat

sorry for the pain you feel. i am a new widow my self (16 days). am here to talk to you anytime. what i discovered is that we do have inner strength

thank you Portside. thank you so muchfor your reply. you send a kind message that soothed me a bit. nat

thanks maureen. your answer comforted me for a while.

thank u so much for the gentle answer and for the reminder about the shoulds and self berating... i wish i knwe how to be softer- with my self.

hello friends i lost my husband 2 weeks ago after 3.5 months of him being in vegetative mode. i can't even describe the sorrow. it was a long exhausting goodbye and the loss feels like great fear more than anguish. i want to learn from you what helped you in the first period of the loss to bounce back. i function quite well- but still i feel this void. terrible feeling of "why do we bother". i suffer also for his suffering during his life as a vegetable. i am 55. he was only 62. can you share your wisdom with me please?