11/5/2013 and he didn't come home from work.
It was really weird because I had this feeling for like 2 weeks that something wasn't right. Husband and I were wrapping up our big Halloween event that we have been doing for 15 years. But this year was different. He didn't even wear his costume because he shoulder was bugging him. He kept saying he had a knot under his right shoulder blade. For days I would massage him, we went faithfully to the chiropractor and he kept taking Advil to relax the muscles in his back. He figured he was sore from all the Halloween construction we do.
However the day he died he woke up and said, "Damn, now its the other side that has the knot! I must have slept wrong." He took a long shower and I rubbed his back and shoulder on the other side this time. He said he felt better, kissed me and our 8 yr old daughter goodbye and left for work. Something told me that was the last time I was going to see him but I didn't know why.
Around noon my home phone rang. I normally screen my home phone because of telemarketers and everyone of importance calls my cell. But this time I knew. It started to go to the answering machine and the person hung up just before I picked it up. I started to run for my cell when the home phone rang again. It was my husbands job telling me he collapsed at work and the ambulance was taking him to the hospital. He has been complaining that his back/ shoulder hurt and he got up from his desk and fell into a coworkers arms. It was that quick. He was gone at 40.
2 weeks later we did his funeral service and the week after that I found out I was pregnant. Mind you we were trying to have more children years earlier. But we had 2 miscarriages and failed fertility so we gave up. Plus I was on medication that shouldn't allowed us to get pregnant and the fertility doctors told me my chances were slim to none. I figured my baby was conceived 3 days before he died. Now I have an almost 8 month baby girl who is fair skinned, very blond and blue eyes like her daddy was.
Yes he was overweight, yes he was a former smoker, yes he had severe allergies and sleep apnea. But he was very active, no other heart problems, and a good cholesterol screening, good blood pressure, good blood sugar, etc. It took almost 10 months for me to get his autopsy report back. His artery just completely gave out. It wasn't Atherosclerotic Cardiac Disease but is was something close to that or a form of that. I just cant remember the exact wording.