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I am conflicted about how to handle pictures and mementos from Chapter one. DW has no remaining family except our kids. How many pictures do they want of a grandma that they don't really remember? How many pictures do they want of their mom when she was a kid? I feel like I should just get rid of them, but it feels wrong - nobody is watching me or would know, but it doesn't seem right -- what have you all done? I have four boxes of albums and framed pictures. some include me and or the kids but a lot do not. while I am asking, what do you do with all of your kids pictures. I have thousands that sit in a box ... keep thinking I will deal with it later, but later never comes.

Appreciate all the comments. Logically, I know it is the right thing to do. Though our assets are similar now, I work and she does not so I am more concerned about ongoing payments after a break up. Of course, we are not planning a breakup. The other side of the story is that a pre-nup is like a get out of jail card. Makes it way too easy to walk instead of staying and trying to work things out. decisions decisions ...

Second relationship - do you prenup? It is so loaded emotionally but feels so right practically.

My chapter 2 is the first person I dated as a widower. For me, it felt like we evolved quickly and it was probably around 3 months in that it felt very serious. And we are still moving forward together after two years. As for guilt - oh yes! But I feel guilt about everything

glad you added this section. I often held off on some of my posts - I sometimes got feedback from people who were just not as far along as I was. Due to that feedback, I modified my posts. I feel like this will be a better place for some of my questions.

Wow! it is so good for me to see your replies. The whole 'should be doing something' has been an albatross on me in so many ways. Even reading this board and YWBB, it always seemed like I was the odd one out by not making the 'special' days a bid deal. It is comforting to know that I am maybe more 'normal' than I thought. I don't want to look backwards. Never did. Bad things happen, and sometimes many bad things happen. All I can control is going forward! But that guilt thing and the whole concept of what I am supposed to be doing sure do get in the way of being happy sometimes.