Hi everyone. I was a regular reader at YWBB and glad to find this new board. Although I rarely post, I had to chime in on this one. About a year after my husband died in Nov. 2012, I took the plunge into online dating. After one 5-month relationship and a lot of dates - some bad, some not so bad - I met a guy for coffee who, from a looks standpoint, was definitely not my "type." I had always been attracted to tall, slender guys with a full head of dark hair (which describes my late husband). New guy was short (about an inch shorter than me), round and bald (in fact he shaves his head because what little hair he has, he doesn't like).
During that first coffee date, the conversation flowed well and I liked his personality. However, I didn't feel romantically attracted to him. My usual attitude about dating was, if it doesn't spark on the first date, there isn't a second date. However, when he asked me if I wanted to get together again - this time for dinner - a little voice in my head said, "Why not? Give this another try." For the next month, we saw each other several times. Again, I felt really comfortable with him, but there was no spark. But the little voice kept saying "try another date," and I listened.
On our 8th date, we went out to dinner and then stayed on for a drink at the bar. We talked and talked and, I can't explain it, but by the time we left, I was smitten (he had been smitten from the beginning). Seven months later, things are wonderful. We're happy and talking long-term. And the physical attraction is definitely there! He's a keeper.
I'm glad I had the patience to see where this was going to go. If I went with my initial reaction of not necessarily feeling physical attraction for him, I would have missed out on a terrific man and a wonderful relationship. Sometimes things just take a while to build.
