Hi,
I lost my DH in November of 2012. So it's been almost 3 years. Our son will be 3 in just two short days. The proximity of those two events annoy me and make me sad.
I don't even know why I'm writing. When I lost him, I immediately found the ywbb board and it helped me a lot. I was benefited because I saw that I wasn't alone. If I went to the board feeling awful, I would leave it feeling better. And if I logged on feeling somewhat okay, I would leave crying because of all the people I sympathized with. But it's been a long time since I've talked to any widows and widowers. I just don't find comfort in it anymore. I feel like there's no point in talking about him anymore. It's like picking at a wound for me. I have a hard time enough when I see his sisters having babies, and during holidays when I'm alone. And especially now that he's not here to see his long desired boy turn 3 years old.
And I find no comfort in reading people's sad stories. it does nothing for me and there's nothing I can say. As a widow, you'd think I'd know how to comfort a new widow, but no. No clue.
Lately I've been exploring the option of starting a blog... But no... I don't want my life out there. I've also been looking for boards. I was in a mom group but I had to leave because sometimes people's ignorance annoy me. I think it's just because I'm sad and very angry too. But that's another story.
I think what I need is a friend, and I have none. I need someone who can listen to me talk about my current life. Not what I lost, or what I wish I had, but the things that are going in. And in return, I would love to listen to someone talk about their life (which is why I watch YouTube blog videos). But people aren't honest with one another. I've never found someone who is willing to tell me things.
I feel really lonely, and even though I know this isn't the forum for me... I just need to get out my feelings. I've been looking for somewhere to write them out. Here it is. I just don't find gratification from anything anymore. I don't know what to do with myself. I'm so alone.