Joseph

In-laws... Well as the former MiL pointed out, the law portion is for the marriage contract, which was over. Last contact was a year after the death when they evicted me from the townhouse we were renting from them, so they could sell it.

Even if the doctor-patient confidentiality doesn't end upon death, there are exceptions to be made. I hope you're able to attain some meaningful information. My LW's psychiatrist is closed to new patients, but our GP got me into her spot. Having her perspective and thoughts on key things through the Dr really helped in my grieving process, and reduce those questions that can never be answered. You may want a few sessions, if the doc is cool and open. Confidentially rules are to protect against malicious intent, not be in the way of healing.

Wow.. I am sorry to hear again of vile online dating guys. A friend last year showed me a pile of messages men send her on PoF and they were just ridiculous, lots of that 'baby' talk from the outset (mentioned above which reminded me). Those guys you want to block immediately. Not meeting in person for a while because neither party mentions it out of nervousness is one thing, but if you ask and they find reasons not to meet I must agree with the rest. Really, why are they even on the site then? I think the scammers are probably a minority though and what you get are a fair amount of men fishing to see if they can 'trade up', ones wanting the ego boost, ones just looking to cheat on their wives. This is frustrating for men too because those losers make it harder for genuine people. If the guy is actively trying to date and meet people they will want to see you after a few conversations, and really, you deserve to have a guy asking "when can I meet you?". Carey, be harder on them, not yourself, they are the real duds after all.