Bear Tomás

Yeah me!  8)

I had a terrible autumn and my drinking was way out of hand. It fucked up my bipolar meds and fucked up a few friendships. Life is better sober.

Peace ~ Bear

Yeah me!  8)

I had a terrible autumn and my drinking was way out of hand. It fucked up my bipolar meds and fucked up a few friendships. Life is better sober.

Peace ~ Bear

NJ to FL in 2009.  8)

I found it impossible to date before my youngest was into high school. 

I just past the 12 year mark. I tried post widowhood monogamy but suck at it. Lately, I have been exploring polyamory with some awesome new friends.

Peace ~ Bear  8)

I waited til my youngest was 18 to date, about six years.

Can I call you a big lug too?

Sure 

I'm creeping up on 12 years and need some widow/widower love.  :-*

Congrats, adp and toosoon.  8)

(((bear hugs)))

I love women but I don't see marriage in my future. Even living with a woman for six months was too much togetherness for me. I have a few friends here in FL who call themselves polyamorous and one who calls himself solo poly, which means he has a few close relationships but he prefers to live alone. It is not one night stands or casual sex. They call it "ethical non-monogamy".

 

That's interesting. Thanks for the information.

Maybe it's just my fear of commitment? 

(((bear hugs)))

I still get bummed around the sad anniversary too. 

Families are too fucking complicated. I wish I had some advice.

If you can only pick one, play it safe. : )  shoot for drunk

lol truth.  ;D

Awe Barn, sorry its a bummer.  Good luck with the rest  Good advise from FLG!

Hugs

Thanks BH2.

Hang in there, ya big lug.

Thank you, ma'am.

Hey Barn! It's not September yet!! In September I'll get drunk with you (we can skype.. Lol).

Deal!  8)

Mate, at our age I'd advise getting laid BEFORE getting drunk (OK, maybe just a teeny bit tipsy first would be alright!) I've seen your posts since I first joined here over 6 years ago - best wishes from across the Pacific.

Good point. 

So.......  older dudes?  Depends on how old!  I'm a very young 45, and I'm convinced that men just don't mature past age 14....  even my LH never really did!

Kinda true. I just turned 61.  8)

I have never felt the need to re-marry or to even re-couple. I actually think it is not realistic to expect one woman to be your everything. You may connect with one woman intellectually, another emotionally, maybe another creatively. It is probably why divorce is so high. Just my thoughts.

I still love Laurie and miss her every day (no woman has made my laugh so hard) but I often felt like a trapped animal ready to chew off my own leg during our marriage. Unfortunately, my children saw this side of me and told me as adults that I probably should never had married. But they also knew I really loved their mom and would have died for her.

I love women but I don't see marriage in my future. Even living with a woman for six months was too much togetherness for me. I have a few friends here in FL who call themselves polyamorous and one who calls himself solo poly, which means he has a few close relationships but he prefers to live alone. It is not one night stands or casual sex. They call it "ethical non-monogamy". 

There use to be a guy named Glenn here who was widowed twice and has remarried a third time. Not sure if he still post.

.. and I still get bummed. 

I'll need to get laid, drunk, or both.

He's a dumb ass. Boys are stupid. Maybe it's time to try men. So, you like older dudes?  8)  : 8)

Did your spouse talk about you dating?

Nope