Bear Tomás

We fixed the world, legalized pot, eliminated world hunger/child poverty/misogyny and exchanged everything we knew about Clothing Optional/Naturists beaches all over this planet... and of course, the WidowWalk and how much is sucks and how we are changed forever.

lmao  ;D

Next time, you bring the pot cookies and we get naked at Playalinda. 

First Lemmy and now Bowie?

Crap!

My youngest was 18 when I seriously considered dating again. It would not have been possible for me to date six years earlier when we lost her mom. I have respect for those who have the time and energy for multi-tasking. All kids a different but 18 and 20 seem old enough to not need constant attention.

(((bro hugs))) I am sorry that you are here too. 

You look such the happy couple.

When is the big day ?

This does sound treasoness.

lmao! Bear ain't the marrying kind and nuggets is just an old friend. 

Not really but I did finally meet the totally awesome nuggets!!!  8)

Spent the afternoon talking politics and treason. 

I would drink my morning coffee from Dunkin Donuts daily (weather permitting) while visiting Laurie until we moved a thousand miles south in 2009.

(((((bear hugs)))))

Many idolize their past marriage. I loved Laurie - still do - and would gladly trade places with her, however, our marriage could have been much better. This is mostly because of me. I'm an asshole, more so before I was medicated. Just being truthful.

I'm ok alone.

I'd be ok as a couple.

Life is an adventure.

8)  8)  8)

27 Dec 2015

Clean & Press each rep 5 x 5

Squat 5 x 5

Done

I just passed the ten year mark. At six months, I was still in a state of numb confusion.

 

I honestly think if my kids were grown and gone I would have been much more receptive to falling in love and remarrying early. But my mind and heart have not been there to go after that if that makes sense.

 

 

Good point. My youngest was 12 and in the fog of puberty. AND a girl. 

"Early recoupling" works for few, imho.  :

Even with Laurie, I had a man cave. 

I have a friend who loves her husband dearly, but when the subject of widowhood came up, she said she doubted she'd make the commitment again.  I have a feeling in my gut that if one wanted children, having that commitment from one's partner is more important.  Post-menopausal  widows don't have that concern..

I feel the same. What's the point when you're an old fart like me? However, I guess I could marry a younger woman and start another family. 

When the kids and I move that will put us only 30 minutes apart.

Seriously? You're worrying about 30 min? lmao! 

Too much togetherness overwhelms me so this would be my dream.  8)

My older sister lives mostly by herself for now. They sold their house and  bought another in a 55 plus community about a two hour drive from his job, after her retirement a couple of years ago. He retires from teaching in June and will join her full time. He rents a small apartment close to his work. They've been married since 1978.

What I am reading now ..

http://cl.ly/2T2u1B0S1R1o

Have you read the Autobiography of U.S.Grant?

Good stuff and his ideas still hold true.

Good luck.

You "get over" a cold, never the death of a loved one.

Not odd at all. I smelled her favorite perfume several times, once being our anniversary date.

same

Nothing much you can do. Do not bad mouth the dad to his daughter. Kids that age are fickle so next year you might be shit to her.  :

All I need is a woman to make me smile and laugh.