Oscar and I had been together since May of 2012. Our relationship was, so perfect. He was kind and thoughtful, his only thought was to protect me and make me happy. He helped me to gain the confidence to go back to school and he was there to cheer me on as the awards and honors came. He was accepting and patient with my little boy from my first marriage, and connected well with him, to the point where my son always asked when we would get married. He had set aside a ring he was paying for and said he had a date set for the proposal. Our lives together were beginning.
Everything came to an end last Monday when I woke up alone. He would sometimes go to the garage to clean his guns. And I found him dead, the result of a freak accident. I'm haunted by the thought of his body lying there. The police said I need trauma and grief counseling. I can't support my family now, and I have my young son to comfort too. I wasn't his wife, so I had no control over anything when it came to the service or his wishes. I'm trying my best to hold it together but I finally broke today. They were loading him into the crematory oven and I lost it. I started screaming and crying, banging on the glass and begging them to stop. It took his family and the funeral director an hour to calm me down. Now I feel numb again, and scared. What do I do? I want to live, I want to accomplish everything he wanted for me. I don't want to lose my job, and I don't want my grades to slip. When will healing begin?