please tell me how to get 21year old out of my house

[Guest running with scissors]

it was bad  tonight 

[Trying]

I'm so sorry, I don't know exactly what your situation is. Are you feeling unsafe or just beyond your frustration breaking point?  If it's a safety issue, do whatever you have to to get him out. If it's a fed up with disrespect and lack of responsibility thing I would give a firm deadline.  Locks can be changed on that date and any personal items removed and left in boxes outside.

 

It must be incredibly difficult.  My 19 year old was given ultimatums last year.  So far he is living up to his end of the bargain and peace has returned.  I'm sure there will be issues in the future though.

[SalukiFan]

In most states, you're only required to have them stay until they are 18. Tell them they have to leave. Now. Get the police involved if you need to. It's a hard lesson for them to learn but maybe they can figure out that it's not as easy out there in the real world and they had it pretty nice at home. And they can't come back in until they are following your rules. Your house, your rules.

[Guest running with scissors]

Still struggling , don't want to get the police involved just yet.  Kid has a few more months left to finish school, working on getting him out when that happens.  We both compromised, we'll see if it lasts.  Thanks for your thoughts.

[pms1954]

While you are testing the new agreement, it might be a good idea to check with local authorities and see what the process would be. Some states require you to do an eviction.

[Torn]

RWS, please know you and I are in very similar circumstance with disrespect of the early twentie somethings and that you can always p.m. me,as I've got much to say on this issue aswell