to Mel in case you see this....

[Mizpah]

Saw you left and am sorry to see it and what prompted it.  If you read this, know that all of us (even those you felt were tearing you down) are just rooting for you and want to protect you and worry for you and care about you and want what's best and healthiest and happiest for you.  I hate that you've left and so don't have our support as you go through this loss.  Know that we're thinking of you.  I hope your heart heals and that you find someone to share your life and love with as you deserve.