Leadfeather Posted October 31, 2017 Share Posted October 31, 2017 This weekend, weather permitting, my late wife's best friend and I are going on a day hike in Manistee. There is a hill along the trail that was one of my wife's favorite places. She and her girl friends camped there several times. And she and I camped there together also. The picture below is one I took the first time she showed me the view from that hill. I remember how excited she was to share that place with me. Saturday I will place some of her ashes on that hill. Tonight, in preparation, I opened the urn that contains her ashes for the first time. It was hard but I think that the fear of doing it was worse than actually doing it. Which seems to be a theme with a lot of firsts this year. The fear is worse than the act. Now that I have over come that hurdle I feel like I can move forward with plans to leave her ashes in the places she loved. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wife of Tomasz Posted October 31, 2017 Share Posted October 31, 2017 Hi Leadfeather, opening the urn is a hard step to take. So glad to hear that you got through it ok. I was surrounded with family when I did that. they did most of the work as I could barely see through my tears. I am very glad they where there as I don't know how I would have done it alone. Overall everything about spreading the ashes was really hard. I think I did it too soon. It was still under a year. But now I am really glad that he is in one of his favorite places on earth that he never got to see in real life. the hill seams like a beautiful place. peace be with you when you spread the ashes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
klim Posted November 1, 2017 Share Posted November 1, 2017 I have taken my husbands ashes and spread them in various locations. He was a man in motion and I felt he would not want to be in just one place. (An odd thought maybe but it was my thought) I have dealt with all ash interactions in private ,on my own. Opening the urn , spreading the ashes have been my time with him to say I loved you ,goodbye. At one location when I traveled to europe I was with someone( actually my new BF) and I just explained what i was going to do and he gave me space. Although he was nearby ,it was still a private event. Goodluck this weekend for me it has always been a peaceful event. Hopefully it will be good for you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trying2breathe Posted November 1, 2017 Share Posted November 1, 2017 I have also spread ashes in some of the places that DH loved. Opening the urn the first time was difficult, after that it was okay. I have taken a few flights with DH's ashes, on the way to spread his ashes in another location. I usually giggle going through security as I can't imagine explaining to TSA exactly what it is that I'm carrying - DH would have loved this. Beautiful picture, thank you for sharing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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