keeptrying Posted April 3, 2015 Share Posted April 3, 2015 I figure if I don't think and avoid all thoughts, I won't have to deal with the unbearable sadness and pain. I tell myself every day that this isn't real he is coming home or I just don't think at all and try to avoid all thoughts. Unfortunately anything that made me happy in the past.. music, memories, things like that trigger me to break down and cry. The pain is unspeakable. I try to avoid all that also. I am afraid of reality. I don't want to "feel". I want to just forget everything, forget my wonderful life I used to have. It hurts, deeply. I am almost 5 months out and I hope that I can do this forever and that eventually I can erase and train my mind that this isn't real. Unwillingly memories do pop up and I get stuck telling myself over and over it isn't real, like a bad dream until I wake up. I want to stay numb. I am scared of reality. - This is how I am coping... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jen Posted April 4, 2015 Share Posted April 4, 2015 I have no good advice, but I have many, many (((((HUGS))))) I am so very sorry. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
swilson Posted April 4, 2015 Share Posted April 4, 2015 I'm sorry keeptrying. I've read that the trauma of a loved ones death often goes beyond what's considered normal shock. You may get a type of numbness, deadening or shutting off of emotions. It feels like, "this couldn't be happening to me" and may feel that way for months. Praying for your comfort & peace <><. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lcoxwell Posted April 4, 2015 Share Posted April 4, 2015 I am so very sorry. I wish words could take the pain away and help you to find some peace, but words are so inadequate at times. Just know that we are here, and we are listening. We may not be able to say the right things to ease your pain, but we can understand what you are going through. ((((Hugs)))) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ATJ Posted April 4, 2015 Share Posted April 4, 2015 I figure if I don't think and avoid all thoughts, I won't have to deal with the unbearable sadness and pain. I don't want to "feel". I want to just forget everything (((keeptrying))) I heard your cry of pain and despair. Whatever soothing words I want to offer, probably won't bring you any comfort at this particular moment in time. My husband died nine years ago, and yet I can still clearly remember that I felt almost exactly as you do now. Below is what I wrote at the time, which will at least let you know that others have had similar feelings: "I Want to Forget" I want to forget What once has been I want to keep running As fast and far as I can Never stop, never think Never let my heart feel All the pain and the fear It has stored inside But the shadows from the past Keep running beside me Never leave me alone They always keep pace Just let me keep going And run ever faster To somewhere, anywhere Where I can't remember the past Reach a distant horizon Where nobody knows me Where I can make believe That it is not true Life's no longer real There's nothing to hold on It only keeps moving And turns on its axis But leaves me behind In my prison of memories I can't find the key To set me free As the calendar turns My heart still wounded and raw Wants to turn the page To another chapter Like mercury rising A fever is building inside me And like a red, hot flame It is burning me up I just have to run faster Faster and ever faster To leave this behind Make it all disappear Find a place that has no memory And does not keep track of time Where it all stands still Where I can find peace at last ~~~~~~~~~~~ A part of the answer lies in your username 'keep trying'. That's all we CAN do, and it also shows that there is at least the tiniest flicker of Hope left in your heart. When my heart says: "Give up," Hope whispers: "Try it one more time!" ~~ Unknown So, I stretch out my hand to you through the ether and say: "Hold on! Let's keep trying together!" OK?! (((HUGS))) to you. ATJ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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