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It was 8 months to get control of the tasks of daily living, but I didn't feel "NOT married" for another 2 years.

18 months out for me and the person already knew I was a widower. In this small town my late wife's' family knew before I could tell any of them, lol. All of them were okay with it. Happy Thanksgiving hugs to all.

Congratulations! Wishing all of you many happy years.

Yep, sort of like happy Slapsgiving!

WTG Bear! I tried self medicating with booze after she died, just made things worse.

In my dreams she shows up just for a "segment" but weaves in perfectly.

{hugs} BrokenHeart2. When it was time to order new checks with my name only, I remember thinking that it erased one more thing connecting us as a couple.

Not proud of this but had to use a bath towel to dry a few dishes :-[

Mercy, you're so right that we aren't in control. You have a lot pulling on you and hope you can find some solutions that bring you comfort.

I'll have to check some of these on YouTube. I submit "Comfortably numb" by Pink Floyd.

I'm sorry you're both facing this. Someone had the tag line "I'd like to punch cancer in the face" and I agree

I told the boys it didn't matter as long as they carved my departure date on our monument. They can share ashes or scatter.

It's a sobering thing to do but a relief to know my son will be looking after things (just in case).

Here's the link for memorial ink. http://widda.org/index.php/topic,56.msg26041.html#msg26041

Hey jgib, late start for me at 54. I think there's a thread on here for memorial ink. Congrats on taking the step.