She Needed Her Mom

[Neverthesame]

I?m out 8.5 years out and overall life is better than I could have hoped for. Grief and loss rarely hit hard anymore. But, this morning my daughter (20 now) had her tonsils out. As I sat there and looked at her after the surgery, it hit me hard how much she really needed her Mom. I can be a dad, but what she really needed was her Mom to hug her and kiss her and baby her. I?m remarried to a wonderful woman who will do anything to help my kids and they like and appreciate her for all that she does.

 

Still...even though she didn?t say anything about it...I could just tell, this morning my daughter really needed her Mom.

 

I hate that feeling of being inadequate.

 

Bill

 

[Justin]

I hate that feeling of being inadequate.

 

I do, too. I try to do my best, but dammit! - sometimes you just need your Mom.

 

 

[SoVerySad]

Those times when our kids really need their other parent are so hard to witness. While we'd do anything we could in our power to help them, there is no way to give them that.

 

Sending you hugs and hoping your daughter heals quickly...

[lcoxwell]

This truly resonated with me. Mine and Kenneth's children were all grown, when he died last year, the youngest turning 18 two days before Kenneth took his last breath. In this past year, I have often thought that he should have been here for one thing, or another; and I have often felt so inadequate, because I can't be the person he was. There are times, when I truly hurt for my children, because I can see their pain, and because I know he could have made things better. I do my best, but he is missing, and he shouldn't be.