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  • Date Widowed
    May 16, 2012

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  1. I’m so sorry Tybec- it was so brave of you to make this decision even if is the right decision for you. For some time you have seemed unhappy with all the drama and he way NG has dealt with his kids/custody. I completely get it when you’ve reached your limit. You deserve everything you want and you really have given it your all....I’ve been through a few breakups post widow (one serious) and it’s good to keep busy, please vent here if you need/want support and keep away from him (if you are interested I’ve read a few break up support books that helped) and they all say to stay away. Believe me, with time no contact makes it easier and gives more clarity to the situation. I wish you all the best - and look forward to hearing more of your next chapter.
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    Anniversaries close together

    Oh Bunny -I hear you. Hoping June 12th comes quickly for you... May is so tough on this end (and I’m crankier than usual this year lol). For me, it’s Mother’s Day, then 3 days later Sadiversary, then 2 weeks later wedding anniversary, then 2 weeks later Fathers Day.
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    Wells Maine - June 14 - 16

    Unf I won’t be able to make this one...sorry but I do hope our paths cross soon. Hope that you are also doing ok....
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    RI Chocolate Bago!

    Unf I’m away that weekend....sorry to miss it
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    My very own Widow Island

    Thank you for the update!!! This place looks heavenly and I’m so happy for you. And happy 50th!! I’m right behind you as a 7yr widow. 3 good things (thank you Helen for reminding me...needed this right now) 1. Have a good day planned for my son and I for the impending sadiversary. 2. I’ve realized that being widowed has made me reflective and super strong. 3. Thankful for Spring arriving (and some sunny weather).
  6. Good to read all the updates here! Tybec - I’m super sympathetic. Interesting....my NG’s ex won’t share information about what her plans are with their son..in fact she has yet to submit her chosen weeks for this summer vacation 🙄 so you never know what the schedule is ahead and/or when she might turn up (thus the resort incident). Whole control issue...and strange. Boy I’d give anything for my son’s dad to be here with him - these games are such bs. After all we’ve been through I just don’t have the patience for it so if I ask and information is not given, I plan ahead for my son and I alone.
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    No will

    I’m so sorry. My husband didn’t have a will either but I kept a lot in my name including the house. I hated and still hate looking at the death certificate although keep a few copies of it for you paperwork (and I initially needed when I travelled overseas with my son). One question - have you contacted social security yet for benefits? Wishing you all the best - echo the others...take one day and one task at a time.
  8. Trying2breathe. Good for you for supporting NG and attending the funeral. It’s so confusing how this (blending) is supposed to work - why would he go sit with her when you went with him to the funeral? Sounds like you handled it superbly. But I’ve had to spend time with my NG’s ex and him and kids (we all ended up at the same ski resort) but it was downright awkward and I felt NG was kind of having to deal with bouncing back and forth between his ex and us. I was cordial but it was draining and she has no boundaries. Makes me super cautious about moving forward. Some groups of people are not meant to be thrown together. For me, I know there is an underlying sense of resentment of having to deal with his ex (indirectly maybe but still..).
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    There are worse things than death

    I’m so sorry for this tragedy. How much can 1 person have to go through...especially given the positive update several months ago. If we can help in any way...
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    Wells Maine - June 14 - 16

    I will try for this! Will keep you posted
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    Ashby MA, Flash Bago

    Thank you for hosting ! And reading the lovely tribute...
  12. I'm with you on this one Sugarbell....I feel very similar. Some friends of mine think its "odd" that I don't pine for marriage but the reality is that I don't, not this late in life with all its complications. I tried to explain to my NG that I'm actually being very thoughtful of everyone (us, our kids) by NOT wanting to get married right now, given the complications it would bring to the picture.
  13. I love reading posts like this- thank you for sharing
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    Ashby MA, Flash Bago

    Anything in particular we can bring ?? I will probably get there in the afternoon so will bring nibbles and wine
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    Ashby MA, Flash Bago

    I am going to be in the Boston area that weekend so am going to try and drive for a visit on Apr 6th.

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