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  • Date Widowed
    May 16, 2012

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  1. Captains wife

    facing my inner demon....

    I do wish I’d done some things differently...and for a long time felt I could have prevented my husband’s death....sigh
  2. Captains wife

    New Relationships....Post a Pic

    Anybody have some more pics? Love seeing this happy news : )
  3. Captains wife

    Wells Maine - June 14 - 16

    I hope to make this as long as my babysitting holds up
  4. Captains wife

    Will our 4 year old remember Daddy?

    Im so sorry for your loss...My son was 9months old when his Dad died, 7 years ago so he remembers nothing. But we keep the memory alive by talking about his Dad regularly, looking at pics and videos. And we do something special in memory on the sadiversary. It’s so tough but I’m so proud of how he handles it all. He cries sometimes but also enjoys our sharing moments about his Dad- and he believes in his heart his Dad is watching over him in spirit so that makes him happy.
  5. Captains wife

    So many accomplishments...DH should be here

    I understand. It’s so hard sometimes. My son’s father died when my son was 9mths old - didn’t even get to see him walk. I used to be so resentful he wasn’t here but I’ve been trying to change my mindset over time so I like to think instead how proud he would be of both of us - he would have loved the life we have now (even if it’s not perfect and not easy sometimes). But it does make me sad...and it’s sad sometimes for my son. Yet I’m super proud of how my son has dealt with the crap life has dealt him. Wishing all you single parents the best- so proud of all of us!
  6. Captains wife

    There's hope for me yet....

    Hear hear Eddienhp! I think you hit the nail on the head. Im dating but still living alone w my son. When I mention I don’t want to get married or I like going out for lunch alone some people look at me like I have 2 heads. Life is so demanding as a single working parent so solitude for me when I can get it is bliss....
  7. I’m so sorry Tybec- it was so brave of you to make this decision even if is the right decision for you. For some time you have seemed unhappy with all the drama and he way NG has dealt with his kids/custody. I completely get it when you’ve reached your limit. You deserve everything you want and you really have given it your all....I’ve been through a few breakups post widow (one serious) and it’s good to keep busy, please vent here if you need/want support and keep away from him (if you are interested I’ve read a few break up support books that helped) and they all say to stay away. Believe me, with time no contact makes it easier and gives more clarity to the situation. I wish you all the best - and look forward to hearing more of your next chapter.
  8. Captains wife

    Anniversaries close together

    Oh Bunny -I hear you. Hoping June 12th comes quickly for you... May is so tough on this end (and I’m crankier than usual this year lol). For me, it’s Mother’s Day, then 3 days later Sadiversary, then 2 weeks later wedding anniversary, then 2 weeks later Fathers Day.
  9. Captains wife

    Wells Maine - June 14 - 16

    Unf I won’t be able to make this one...sorry but I do hope our paths cross soon. Hope that you are also doing ok....
  10. Captains wife

    RI Chocolate Bago!

    Unf I’m away that weekend....sorry to miss it
  11. Captains wife

    My very own Widow Island

    Thank you for the update!!! This place looks heavenly and I’m so happy for you. And happy 50th!! I’m right behind you as a 7yr widow. 3 good things (thank you Helen for reminding me...needed this right now) 1. Have a good day planned for my son and I for the impending sadiversary. 2. I’ve realized that being widowed has made me reflective and super strong. 3. Thankful for Spring arriving (and some sunny weather).
  12. Good to read all the updates here! Tybec - I’m super sympathetic. Interesting....my NG’s ex won’t share information about what her plans are with their son..in fact she has yet to submit her chosen weeks for this summer vacation 🙄 so you never know what the schedule is ahead and/or when she might turn up (thus the resort incident). Whole control issue...and strange. Boy I’d give anything for my son’s dad to be here with him - these games are such bs. After all we’ve been through I just don’t have the patience for it so if I ask and information is not given, I plan ahead for my son and I alone.
  13. Captains wife

    No will

    I’m so sorry. My husband didn’t have a will either but I kept a lot in my name including the house. I hated and still hate looking at the death certificate although keep a few copies of it for you paperwork (and I initially needed when I travelled overseas with my son). One question - have you contacted social security yet for benefits? Wishing you all the best - echo the others...take one day and one task at a time.
  14. Trying2breathe. Good for you for supporting NG and attending the funeral. It’s so confusing how this (blending) is supposed to work - why would he go sit with her when you went with him to the funeral? Sounds like you handled it superbly. But I’ve had to spend time with my NG’s ex and him and kids (we all ended up at the same ski resort) but it was downright awkward and I felt NG was kind of having to deal with bouncing back and forth between his ex and us. I was cordial but it was draining and she has no boundaries. Makes me super cautious about moving forward. Some groups of people are not meant to be thrown together. For me, I know there is an underlying sense of resentment of having to deal with his ex (indirectly maybe but still..).
  15. Captains wife

    There are worse things than death

    I’m so sorry for this tragedy. How much can 1 person have to go through...especially given the positive update several months ago. If we can help in any way...

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    May 16, 2012

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