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  • Date Widowed
    1-13-2013
  • Cause of death
    Interstial Lung Disease/Breast Cancer
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  1. rifatheroffour

    RI Chocolate Bago!

    BUMPING! I'm still on for this next weekend. Please let me know here or via PM if you are interested or need an address. I'd love to see some newer faces. Getting together with other young widow/ers was one of the best decisions I made on this journey.
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    It's been 10 days

    Melissa, So sorry you have had to join us here but you will find many supportive voices. Take each day or even minutes one at a time. Drink water, it's easy to forget the simple things. Hug your kids and be open with them with your emotions. You will draw strength from each other. My wife died just over 6 years ago, my 4 kids were 16 to 11 at the time. Wishing you peace...
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    Ghosts? Spirits? Loved ones hanging around? (Am I crazy?)

    I don't think your nuts! From my own perspective I am a bit skeptical but do not rule out the possibilty. While I do not "feel" her around me the number 13 turns up in all kinds of places at coincidental times. She died on the 13th in 2013. One of our close friends is a medium and she says she is around all the time. Another friend recently came to visit and said it was odd because she didn't feel my wife's presence on this particular visit. I have no proof either way but do hope there is more and some connection.
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    Emotions always so close to the edge...

    I feel this way as well. It is as though I just can't go there because I believe that if do, I will never stop weeping. Yes, I also have some sense of this. For me I always thought of more like my threshold for feeling sorry for someone else is higher. Like they have to hit a certain level of pain or loss for me to register it. Writing that out makes me sound like a bit of a monster or self righteous and I rather prefer Hachi's perspective.
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    RI Chocolate Bago!

    It's time for another Chocolate Bago in Westerly, RI. Saturday July 27th. Chocolate factory tour around noon then bago at my house till you want or need to leave. Who's interested?
  6. I have always been in touch with emotions and certain movies etc could make me teary eyed. In the last 6 years though those emotions are so much more intense and close to the surface all the time. A simple movie with a tender moment or the right song can have me in tears. I understood why that happened early on but I would have thought over time it would get better. I can talk about my wife's story of declining health and unexpected death with a dry eye these days but show me a movie with a kid who has lost a parent or about young tender love, or an old loving couple etc and the tears just flow instantly. They are quiet tears but streaming down the cheek not just moist eyes. This never seems to end even though most days are indeed better and sometimes they are even good. I am a changed person and figuring who I am and what I truly want out of life now is such a challenge.
  7. rifatheroffour

    Ashby MA, Flash Bago

    I will be there around noon time on the 7th.
  8. rifatheroffour

    introduce yourself here

    Hello Shawna, I'm sorry for your loss and that you have had to join us. This is a good and safe place to share with others who understand.
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    Ashby MA, Flash Bago

    I can make April 7th or 13th work as well.
  10. rifatheroffour

    Ashby MA, Flash Bago

    I could make the last weekend in March work. Sorry to hear about your new loss. You've been in my thoughts.
  11. rifatheroffour

    Hello

    Hi Cae, I'm in Rhode Island, there are others in NH, VT and ME out there and a bunch in MA. If you are interested in getting a group together just suggest a date and place and see who responds. Many of us have been know to travel.
  12. rifatheroffour

    Sad Loss Of WifeLess

    Sorry...no words...Wifeless already said most of them and I always appreciated reading them. You and he are constantly in my thoughts these days.
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    A holiday ramble...

    Oh...so much truth in what you write. It will be 6 years in three weeks. While so much is better now the holidays are still filled with moments. I am lucky to have all my children home tonight and although the years long traditions are changing as they age I'm still happy just to have them here. This year I am particularly aware of what we lost and yet thankful for what we do have. A woman and her three kids I know are just experiencing the horor of the life we lead as her husband was killed in a terrible accident last week. It has brought back some of the thoughts that had since buried a little deeper over the last six years. I have also made my friends here even though I've been a bit distant lately I value each of you beyond words. Thank you Maureen for giving me a push to share these thoughts through your own.
  14. rifatheroffour

    Bago - Northeast/New England - Saturday, December 8th

    I'll be there! Wonder what I should bring...lol Seriously, if you are new to this group please consider coming. My first Bago over 5 years ago was nerve wracking at first but has precipitated many wonderful and real friendships.

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  • Date Widowed
    1-13-2013
  • Cause of death
    Interstial Lung Disease/Breast Cancer
  • Spouse's Age
    0


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