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I’m at eleven months today. My husband and I were together for 17 years, 11 of which we had this couch. It’s become kind of iconic with our friends and in our life and has so many memories associated with it. Our cats have ruined it over time, I’m sure it smells, and on top of it, my husband and I had been talking about getting rid of it right before he passed. My mom offered to buy me a new couch and I took her up on it. It is getting delivered a week from today and they are taking our other couch to the curb for the trash. Any advice on how to cope with this? I’m sure it sounds silly to a lot of people.

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It doesn’t sound silly to us. Sometimes, we need our own rituals when we make changes. I have moved after losing both of my husband’s and I let go of a lot of their property and joint property as well. Fortunately, it often feels better after you make the change. Perhaps take a photo or 2 for memory’s sake. Cry if you need to. Get your new couch and try to embrace the inevitable - that life moves forward and you might as well join in and try rebuilding. 

 

Hugs,

 

Maureen

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I relate to this as I still have furniture in storage that I am slowly donating, selling and purging.  It does feel good to move forward with the process, but it hasn't been easy.  

 

As for your couch - how about cutting a small swatch of it for memory's sake?  

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Yeah I’m sentimental too. I’d probably take a photo and make an artful framed diorama commemorating it. It’s easier to carry a framed photo of it than actually keeping it. 

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Take a swatch, launder if necessary, and have someone add it to a cover for a throw pillow for the new couch.

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