My name is Laura, and I'm 47. I lost my husband Adam on Thursday night to liver disease (alcohol cirrhosis). We were so close to making the transplant list, but his body just gave out. I held him in my arms as he slipped away at the young age of 43.
I have spent much of the last 24 hours reading through this forum. I am feeling all the feelings you have. I wonder if life is worth it anymore. We had no children by choice, just our beloved dog (who we were able to sneak into the hospital to visit him while he was conscious).
I have family with me now, although they live far from me. Adam was beloved by our friends in this city, and I know they will give me support, but I fear the day when they aren't there anymore. I hate already when people talk about their own losses, when none of them have lost a spouse.
I just am so lost, yet being an OCD person, I am still so in control, already logging into accounts to deal with some bills and making sure I have all the correct passwords. I am lucky in a way, I guess, because I was the breadwinner and we have no financial issues. It feels like a stupid thing to feel lucky about.
I wonder how to find joy again.
Thank you for reading.
Laura