Hello all, my name is Valerie. I?m six and half years out. Wow, that sounds like a long time. I also read a lot, but don?t post as much anymore. Pete and I were engaged not married, but lived together for years.
I met him when I was 15 and developed a wicked crush immediately. If you?re familiar with the 80?s movie ?Sixteen Candles?, he was my Jake Ryan. Just sitting next to him could set my little high school heart all a-flutter. But he was cute and charming; all the girls followed him everywhere and I was too proud/shy to compete, so we stayed friends, but lost touch.
Fast forward almost a decade, and his best friend was getting married. I knew he would come back to our little town for the event and I went to the local bar the night before, betting he would be there. He was there and the sight of him took my breath away, all a-flutter again. We started talking, I was no longer shy ☺, and we fell in love. We moved to the beach and were planning on getting married.
In Aug. 2008, he was shot by a man who lived in the neighboring apartment complex during an argument. The shooter fled and has never been caught. Pete died with me kneeling next to him, begging him to stay with me. These years have been incredibly difficult, but I have rebuilt my new life. I never thought that would be possible. I was so thankful to find YWBB when I did, and credit it with helping to save my sanity. Thank you again to the administrators of this new home. Sending hugs to all.