Melissa brown

My husband didnt have a will. We didnt think we needed one being so young. But now there is a ton of things I need to do to get his part of the house in my name and a ton of other things. These things are so hard, I have to keep repeating to people that he died. Any advice from you all on how to get through these tough times. I am actually on my way to pick up his death certificates and its soo hard and I'm scared I am going to just bawl when I see them.

Widower40, Thank you. I am sorry for your loss and I am glad to hear your children are doing better too. You mentioned , "take it moment by moment". And that's exactly what i do. One moment I'm fine, the next I'm not.

Maureen, Thank you for all your help. I have been on this site for countless hours the last few days. I am so sorry to learn that you have been through this twice. It really shows how strong of a person you are. I am not sure what I will do as far as work goes right now. I am trying to get through all the legal stuff that goes along with losing a spouse. But I must admit I am having a hard time getting out of bed.

I agree with you Bubu27. I am a nurse and I found it very difficult to care for patients and then care for my husband. I didnt have compassion for my patients and I don't think I will now if I return to work now. I had no clue there was so much involved with the passing of a spouse. I feel so lost.

Hi, I am just curious about when to return to work and what everyone did after their spouse passed. I am sure everyone has different ways of coping. Is it easier or harder to go back? Does it provide you with a distraction? Any advice is greatly appreciated. Melissa.

I just found this and I am so glad I did. It's only been 12 days since I lost my husband. But reading these amazing stories and knowing I'm not alone is a huge help. Thank you to you all for helping me during this time.

Wow jenn, thank you for sharing your story. I am new here too. My husband died at 41. He died March 21. He was a cancer patient. Sounds like you did such a great job with him. My thoughts are with you and zoe.

Thank you. Finding this site has helped me already

Hi, I am so glad i found this site. My name is melissa. I am 41. And my husband died from rectal cancer just ten days ago. We have three children ages 18, 16, and 13. And we are heartbroken. Although, he was home with hospice for a few days and we knew how sick he was, it has still hit us hard and personally I am struggling and just need some advice from people who have been walked in my shoes. I have a very supportive family but I wasn't prepared for this pain. My husband was only 41 and I feel he was robbed of his life. Please help.