Melissa brown

Yea @ captains wife, I was able to get the benefits from social security started. And that's a relief. But everyday there is more to do. I have family and friends who I am grateful because they have helping me a ton. And of you guys have helped more than you will ever know.

Hi, I am so so sorry you are here. It's been 5 weeks for me. He was 41. We too were married for 18 years. And have been together for 25 years. He is all I have known. We have three children who are the only reason I get up in the morning. Other than that I spend alot of time at the cemetery and crying when I'm alone. I know the pain will be easier to deal with someday but for now I take it one day at a time. Dont be too hard on yourself. This forum has helped me a ton these last few weeks. Hugs to you. Melissa

Thank you faye. It's all just a big mess right now.

@Bubu27 I have had something happen that has to be damon. The day after he passed my family was talking about text messages on our phone from him. I had none because I've been with him 24/7 taking care of him and I guess I deleted the texts ( I never keep texts). Anyways, while looking at my phone it randomly restarted. Suddenly old text messages appeared on my phone from damon. I know it sounds crazy, but this really happened. I have no doubt it was him. Melissa

Unimaginable and so sad. I am so sorry.

I am sure this topic has been discussed, although I didn't find anything. But what was your experience with probate court?My husband didnt have a will. So it has to go through probate. I went there today and am overwhelmed with what they told me. Apparently my 18 year old owns a part of our house. It's just crazy. Is there any tips or suggestions? Of course the one person I can talk to is no longer here. Thank you to this forum for all the support. Melissa

@laurie27 I actually did see a lawyer but did not hire him to do the paperwork. I have considered it though.

What are these camps about and do you just Google them to find one?

@Julester3 if you dont mind me asking, what kind of therapy did your family do? Grief therapy? I know we would benefit from that but I can't think clearly enough to know where to begin.

You guys are great and really do help me feel better. I'm just so lost. If I try to imagine if it were me who passed what would I want for my family? I would want happiness and peace for my family. And I know he would too. It's just so strange being the sole parent who makes the final decisions on everything. I'm sure over time that it will get easier. Melissa

It's been almost a month since my l lost my husband damon. A friend of ours sent my family to their timeshare for spring break this week. I have so many mixed emotions about him not being here. I feel sad. And scared. And can not believe we are in this position. Please help me with your words of wisdom. Melissa

@Mattie , thank you for sharing what works for you. I like to hear what helps others to see if it would help me too. I did start taking some medications,which help. I am really sorry about losing your husband at such a young age. Life just isn't fair. @laurie27 I am glad you have animals to take care of. It does make you get out of bed. My kids help me keep moving, although hard. Hugs to you both.

Great idea Laurie.

@laurie27, Hi Laurie. Thank you for your response. I am sorry that you are here too. I am sorry we are all here. But I am grateful for this forum. Taking care of myself is the hardest. Sounds crazy but even showering is hard to do.

Hi, I was wondering if anyone made a memory blanket or bear made from their loved ones tshirts or clothes? Our son graduated high school in June and I want to give him something special that reminds him of his dad. Any suggestions?? Melissa

Mattie, it's been close to a month for me. I am miserable. I wanted to ask you how are you doing now? My husband was 41. He died of cancer. I keep telling myself this will get easier. I hope it does. Melissa

Bubu27, I more times than often feel the same way. I am angry this happened to us. It will be three weeks tomorrow for us and I would do anything to have him back. Does talking about Ken help you in anyway? I know talking about damon helps me. If you want to send me a private message telling me all about ken, I would love to read it. Hugs. Melissa

Although not physically, I believe our loved ones remain with us spiritually. It's for us because we can't see them or hear them. My husband was trying to get to my sons high school graduation ( which is in june). He didn't make it. Its heartbreaking for me that he won't physically be there. You are so right, all of this sucks!

I think it is easy to judge a book by it's cover. I really like the second part. Well said.

Bubu27, That must of felt awful for you. Thank God for our moms. I couldn't get through any of this without her. And I suppose you are right about the kids. I am not sure if I would even get up if it weren't for them. All I seem to do is count the days. Today is day 19. In an earlier post you mentioned books that you have read. Do you have any recommendations for me? I do not know how to private message yet? Thanks, melissa.

Love2fish, That's sounds like a hard job untangling jewelry. I am sure the members of your family will be honored to own a piece of her jewelry. As far as the puzzles go, I started when my husband was diagnosed with cancer in may of 2018. It kept my mind off of the nasty cancer and helped me focus on something else. I never liked puzzles before but now I find them therapeutic. Good luck. Melissa.

@powbesh, showering is the same for me. I used to love to shower and it always made me feel better. Right now it seems more of a chore than anything else.. @beanless Its only been 17 days since i lost my husband and i 100% agree with you. People have no clue what this feels like. We do. I can't say this enough, but I am so glad I found this site. Super helpful knowing that they are people out there like us.

My kids did the same, they went back to school after a week. I try to keep them busy but then I am left at home to figure out how to do this new life again. I will return to work next month. I am doing alot of the financial things now. But puzzles seem to help me alot. Sounds crazy ,but they do. Thank all for your help.

Brokenheart2, Thank you for your response. Day by day. One step at a time.

Not sure why exactly, but today is sooo hard. I've cried all day. My 13 year old daughter has cried. Nothing triggered it except that the face that my husband's family came and mulched my yard and cut the grass and we all just hung outside. I couldn't help but think of how happy damon ( my husband ) would have been to have us all together. I sat by the cemetery for a long time crying. What does everyone else do on these terrible hard days? Its only been 16 days. Please help. Melissa.