Lisa

Sending hugs

Yes yes yes! The Pop is in!!!!!! This is quite thrilling 

So very true Beyond Life. So well put.

Very sad. My husband died immediately from an abdominal aortic aneurysm. Ill pray for them

This thread wins the internet tonight.

Sounds wonderful.  You have a good plan. I hope it is a peaceful day. Don't worry. You will get through it whether the day passes easily or not.  My heart sinks a little whenever anyone has the day coming up.hugs.

It always cones down to missing him. Most of the time I feel like I am getting used to it. But I have flares. Like now, the period before the anniversary of his death.

At least now I know my obesity is destroying our planet.  How could I be so blind?

You found the biggest douchebag in North America.  He really does not have advanced english language skills. Ill bet he has been reposting this for years and will for many years to come.

If going is not working for you please take a break and certainly don't beat yourself up.

You are an excellent writer. I'm sure this felt therapeutic.  The thing is, I doubt she disappeared because you disclosed. And if Inam wrong, she is still the wrong person for you at this time .

Very sorry Grace.  Hugs.

This is completely normal. Hugs.

Everyone processes differently. My process would not include setting a date. But thats me.  I took it off and put it back on for quite awhile.  I didn't wear it daily when he alive but after I removed it after he died i felt the weight of emptiness  on my finger. I cant remember the last time I even looked at it but I still need to wear some sort of  ring there so I  can fiddle with it. I even wore it on early  dates. It is mine after all. I guess i had utveady because it wasnt a traditional band.

experiment when you feel the urge to try.

I'm welled up with tears.  You are a blessings to so many.

Sending hugs. please dont beat yourself up. It is admirable that you were able to speak up. Good for you.

I get post traumatic episodes but I dont have the disorder. It passes.  If you have many episodes back to back I'd get some therapy. I have anxiety. It isnt easy.

Ive been in this position, as you know. I was missing what  hoped would be. I confused that with missing someone who was not right for me. And it aggravated my grief. Over and over again.

Some people take a lot longer. Therapy doesnt always work as quickly as we would like. I have to do all celebrations differently now. We adjust and then readjust. My steoppdaughter made such a scene at mothers day we decided she just wont do it any more.  If she's in a bad way on a holiday we will do it with out her. You may wish to change the way you date and try not to combine families until they are in a better place. Im not saying dont date but I wouldn't combine families yet. They need to catch up to where you are. A childs loss is different.good  luck

I don't think the relationship seems close enough to warrant putting yourself through this. I wouldn't,

I wonder if you considered yourself decisive before? I was used to making decisions. Then I moved into a ready made family so he was the big decision maker. For me I think it is an extention of my anxiety. I have a few advisors but I hate getting unsolicited advice.

Very happy to see this update.  Be well.

Does anyone have a status update?

Sending hugs. The 3rd and 4th were a bigger struggle for me than the 2nd. At that point I was just so relieved the 1st was over. Im about to hit my 6th and I have to say most of my distress isnt because of widowhood.  Ill be miserable for the anniversary I expect and then contunue on. Hang on...

The 1st year ip I  had a Mass and brunch. The 2nd breakfast with my parents and Mass.  It was a week day. Then we moved to having a meal at a favorite place of his. I find for us it is good to have a plan but not too extragavant, no plan is a disaster. Anything too involved with other people or specific doesnt work. I have to consult with his kids. They arent up for much. #6 is coming up in a few weeks. We havent decided yet.