Lisa

I think one of the best things about these boards is posting what feels crazy and finding you are not alone. Years 2 and 3 I was out and about doing my best. The reality is I was a disaster. I started to get interested in life around 4 years. This time between 5 and 7 years, I mostly feel balanced, interested in things again. Happy. I still have deeply sorrowful days but they are rare.I carry him with me everyday.

Sending you love and hugs in this difficult period. Keep checking in.

Almost never unless he's with my neice or nephew and I'm startled yet again at how much time passed. They were so cute and little. now they aren in 10th grade and graduating college. It brings tears. But not sobs. I'm going on 7 years. But I don't think it is about time. It is how Im wired. Crying,or not crying isn't a measure of our progress. Hugs

I'm so sorry

I would go to counseling myself to try and shake out whether your kids need help or if you are enabling. But I know God will forgive you if you end your marriage. Especially for the sake of your kids welfare. He took vows too. Doesnt seem he's living up to them. Wishing you all the best.

If you are both faithful I would consider UCC where all are invited to communion or Episcopal where all baptized can receive. You can each still visit your respective churches when you desire. I am Catholic but I practice at UCC instead. We didn't have time for miles annulment so we hired an American Catholic (not Roman) to do our wedding. I continued my tradtion of worshipping wherever I wantedmm

He did not attend any church. His kids already had their religious 3rd and we're free to do what they wanted

Glad they met. I think she deserves to know that someone is sleeping in her home. It must be disconcerting to wake up and suspect so.some is there but not know. Better now she knows him

For me the 1st was the absolute worst. It isnt everyone's experience but it was mine. Best of luck to you as you continue this path with us.

I think you should discuss your feelings with your husband. I would want him to stand up for your son.

Some upllighting is cool. I doubt they are into decorations anymore. How about Chinese food or her favorite foods or all appetizers? Is do a signature non alcoholic drink in her fav color or in the color of the lighting.

Sounds like his way of coping. Little heart breaker you have there.

Is there a significant are gap or they are just getting to know each other?

My thoughts are with you today

I'm so very sorry for your loss. I remember 3, 6 and 9 being touch. Then the lead up to the year. For me, the date held a lot of energy for a long time. My family couldn't be bothered to remember even though I asked them to. I had a friend who did though and I really appreciated her. That helped with the hurt. For me it helped to acknowledge the day in a small way at the start of the day. Lighting a candle, going to church or the beach, somewhere we liked together. Sometimes I just needed to sleep the day away.

Best of luck to you. You're right. The fog made things easier in the beginning. We are here for you.

Just saw and loved this http://www.theonion.com/article/woman-feels-shes-finally-ready-start-receiving-uns-52143

Sounds like a wonderful idea! I'm so happy for you. I don't have answers but I am cheerleading.

My husband's cremains are in his family's plot. I plan for mine to be buried there regardless of remarriage or coupling.

I love the ring. Congratulations

I am so very sorry.

Sugarbell, I applaud you for doing the stupid elf. Someone on my FB had the elf break his legs and now he has to recuperate, with casts and all, so he is out of commission until Santa comes. Ideas?

FOR THE WIN!

I'm sorry you are going through this. Perhaps these concerned people would like to play with your DD and give her attention while you nap. Otherwise they are doing you no good what so ever.

I was never one to be afraid to ask for help. That served we well I'm the early days. What about your stepkids? Do they take her out and spend time with her? Try not to beat yourself up. You are doing the best you can

There is no easy way.

If your DD continues to act out and you are concerned, there are grief groups that run for children while another runs for their parent.

I think I would act out too. It makes sense.

Wishing I could grant you a long nap and some extra patience when needed.

Hugs

Jess and Justin. Love you two!!!! Good for you. Wishing you continuing joy. Its a pleasure to see.

I empathize.  Communication is key. I hope you feel free to talk to him about it. If nit, here we are anyway. offering a hug

Leaving ny heading to Tampa Bay area end of the month. I know more than a few widows there. 

Welcome

For me it meant feeling my feelings and avoiding denial when i could, for me it meant grief counseling and hsnging out with other widows epwho were going thru it too. I do believe that if we dont go thru it it goes thru us. That doesnt mean tbere usca wpright path, time line or finish line.

We are "dealing with it" everyday just by our existence. 

Be gentle with yourself.