Hi Dean47,
I completely understand how you are feeling. I am 6 six weeks out and like you I am aware that this is a new life moving forward and things will be very very different. I worry about how I will cope with this new life. We are an expatriate family living in Singapore and with R's sudden death I will be moving back to Australia with my 11 year-old daughter in two months. It has been 10 years since we been on the move for his job, so going back without R is a very very scary thought. I don't know how I will adjust to life as a single parent, will I make new friends and if I can find a job. In addition, I will be leaving behind good friends who have been my lifeline since R's passing. This is an added stress for me.
Like you, I have been wondering if happiness will one day find its way back into my life. It seems impossible at this stage but I am telling myself to be patient and just ride the waves for now. Friends tell me to live one day at a time. As a control freak who likes to make plans, this is a struggle.
However, I know with clarity that I want to honour R's legacy and live a life that's worthy of his love and sacrifice, and also to raise my daughter to be the person he would be proud of. I'd like to believe that I can live a meaningful and purposeful life one day when I feel better.
May you channel your love for your sweet sweet Nicole into your inner strength and let it shine when the darkest hour falls on you.