Will you be my new mom?

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My finance's wife passed away 2 years ago and we have not told any of our children about our plans to blend our families yet.  I was running errands with one of his and one of mine (both almost 4yrs old) and they were talking amongst themselves about the fact that her mom died, and then his turned to me and asked me to be her new mom.  My daughter lovingly jumped in and said yes and that she would share her mom with her.  I gave his a big hug and told her I loved her, but didn't know how to answer.  My heart wanted to shout "YES! I would love to be your new mom!" 

 

Anyone have any thoughts or experiences they can share on how to address this, especially at this age?  What is the right thing to say that will express that I will be the mom in the house and I will love them as my own, but that "mommy" is still their mom too?

[Losttogether]

That's so wonderful. I think the best approach is to keep it simple (because of their age) and say 'you'd love to be her new mum but you promise to always remember her first mum too'.

 

My guy has a poisonous ex wife and his daughter hates me (and him too for that matter) even though it was her mum who had an affair and left. No blending here!!

[singinmomo4]

I think just saying you will love being a mom to her but you also know that her mom is still with her in her heart and will always be her mom also. 

 

Congratulations!

[Virgo]

That's heartwarming, aww! I don't have personal experience with this, but I have heard some people refer to themselves as 'earthly mother' and the deceased as 'heavenly mother.' I like it, but I know depending on your personal beliefs it might not be an option.