Anna from Belgium Posted September 24, 2015 Share Posted September 24, 2015 Dear all, I've been coming to this forum from time to time now, reading messages, finding support in the shared experiences. Today is the first day I will write a post myself, 5 months after the sudden death of my 36 years old husband, my first love ... my companion, the father of our two children .... Life is difficult (reading Dr. Scott Peck's book 'The Road Less Traveled' now, my husband's favorite book) and life is complex. My husband and I were connected through love, but pain was also an important part of our daily life. A chronic depression and difficult childhood made life a challenge for my husband ... I tried coping through a co-dependency mechanism. So much easier to discern these patterns now, now that everything has so abruptly stopped. Individual therapy, couples therapy ... we were trying so hard to be happier with the 4 of us ... accepting the end of these efforts is very difficult. Today would have been our 10 year wedding anniversary ... so today is difficult ... more than I imagined ... the pain is hard, but I also feel that going through this pain and 'surviving' this day is a healing experience ... it's necessary .... Thanks to all of you for sharing your experiences and for the anonymous support ... so valuable at this moment, Take care, Anna. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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donswife Posted September 24, 2015 Share Posted September 24, 2015 thanks for posting this this will be a hard day and I am glad you are letting us be a part of it hopefully at some point today, through the sadness, maybe you can remember some of the good times you had wedding anniversary's are tough as it was about just the two of you take care Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SoVerySad Posted September 25, 2015 Share Posted September 25, 2015 Sending you tight hugs, Anna. I am so sorry for the loss of your husband. Anniversaries feel so hard. I think it is because the only other person who shared the deep significance of the day is no longer here to share it with. Other important dates usually are shared and celebrated by others, but an anniversary is a couple's special day. I'm sorry you have reason to join this community, but hope you will find it a source of comfort. More hugs... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jen Posted September 27, 2015 Share Posted September 27, 2015 I can't add any wisdom, but I'm sending lots of hugs and support from here too. Wishing you peace tonight... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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