Can Trauma Help you Grow? New Yorker Article

[Guest TooSoon]

Some here will know how timely this is for me but regardless, I thought it worth sharing. 

 

http://www.newyorker.com/tech/elements/can-trauma-help-you-grow?mbid=social_facebook

 

 

[Guaruj]

Thank you for posting this. I subscribe to the New Yorker, but I'm always one or two issues behind until I take a long trip.

 

From the article:

 

Tedeschi and Calhoun had spent a decade surveying bereaved parents. Despite their pain and suffering, the couples consistently reported that they had undergone positive personal transformations, too. ?One common theme,? Calhoun told me, ?is that they say, ?I still miss my child, I yearn for my child and get depressed, but I?m a different person?more compassionate and empathetic.? ?

 

After 19 months, I'd like to believe that this quote describes me, but I always assume that I've "had it easy" since Catherine died.

 

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[Portside]

Hmmmm. . . .  I'm not so sure.

 

I'm of the opinion that adversity reveals character, it rarely builds or creates it. Again, we are all unique and what will absolutely crush one may affect another in a completely different manner, if at all.

 

 

Mike

[Guest TooSoon]

Our experiences are all deeply personal and different but I like this message:  "Before he died, my father ... suggested that I read Anne Morrow Lindbergh?s memoir. ?Lindbergh said that suffering alone doesn?t make for wisdom,? he wrote. ?One has to remain vulnerable, open to more suffering and to more love.? 

[Amor]

Thank you for the post. It is a good read if nothing else. I am not there yet. Maybe one day i will help someone because i bec