Wheelerswife Posted February 20, 2018 Share Posted February 20, 2018 Facebook has a way of reminding me of dates and experiences...some of them good, some of them not-so-good. 4 years ago today and just under 6 weeks after my second husband died unexpectedly, I had surgery to address the cause of rapidly progressing numbness and paresthesias - abnormal sensations, typically tingling or pricking (“pins and needles”), caused chiefly by pressure on or damage to peripheral nerves - in my legs. The suspected problem was growing fibroids. They were present, but in addition, I had a quickly growing malignant tumor called leiomyosarcoma. It a is rare and aggressive cancer. I didn't find out until 2 weeks after surgery that I had this cancer, as the pathologists asked for multiple opinions including sending things off to Johns Hopkins before they confirmed the diagnosis. So...now I am reliving the angst of that day and the weeks that followed. My first reaction to the diagnosis was that I hoped it would just take me out of my misery. It didn't. I declined chemotherapy, as the cancer was still Stage 1 and known to be chemo-resistant. Now, four years later, I am one of a rare minority of people with this cancer who have not had a recurrence (although I remain at risk for life and will remain on surveillance). I wish I didn't still have visceral reactions to memories like this one. I no longer wish for something to take me out of my misery. I might not yet have reached a point where I am truly happy, but I am also not miserable (most of the time). I have learned through others like us that the pain will not always be intense like it was in the early days and weeks and months. I know from prior experience that it is possible to be truly happy again. I'm working toward that now - another interview today - some hope on the horizon that life will find a new normal that feels good again. Thanks for listening. Maureen Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trying2breathe Posted February 20, 2018 Share Posted February 20, 2018 I get it, I too have an anniversary surgery date that happens to coincide with my birthday. Every birthday, I remember my life saving surgery : and with it comes a twinge of sadness and guilt that this helped contribute to my DH's demise. It's angst, good and bad - combination of celebrating life while remembering the difficulty of living. Continued good health to you, Maureen and hope that your new normal that feels good appears very soon. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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