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About Love2fish

First widowed in 2012, again in March of 2019

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  • Date Widowed
    08/12/2012
  • Cause of death
    cancer
  • Spouse's Age
    64


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  1. Love2fish

    3 things I did today

    1. Got my snowshoes to work despite not having tested them for years. 2. Stomped around the front yard with the roof rake and cleared a few feet back at the eves. 3. Now wondering if I need another snowblower and how I would ever use more than one.
  2. Love2fish

    On line dating vents and laughs......

    SW Do you have the sense that this was a deliberate deception on his part? I don't doubt that it often is but I am curious about how often it is deliberate deceit vs. how often the "mosting" is a result of love at first sight. I'm a believer in love at first sight. My last true love started that way. Mea culpa, I've had a few heartbreaks start that way as well but never with the intent to disappear. Some of us just fall in love too quickly. Trust me, I am not negating your point of view. Men are pigs. Just wondering what the percentages are between players and good guys.
  3. Love2fish

    widowed 3rd may 2019

    I think that a lot of us here know what you mean Simon. And you express it well.
  4. Love2fish

    Marriage after widowhood

    So sorry Rob. I've lost track of the number of times I've thought "This is it!" only to realize later that it was not. I do pray, after a fashion. Right now I'm praying that all the wids here find a little more peace and a lot more love this season. Including you Rob.
  5. Love2fish

    3 things I did today

    Cut down an ash tree that was a challenge to my ability. Reduced the tree to firewood size pieces. Decided that my happy place this winter will involve trees and a chain saw.
  6. Love2fish

    On line dating vents and laughs......

    This text exchange happened yesterday. I was trying to set up a 4th date. My idea was to hike on a nearby "mountain" called Watatic. Pronounced wha-tay-tic. I was dictating the message and my iPhone auto correct got things slightly wrong. That could have been the end of things, I explained how it happened. Lucky for me the lady has a sense of humor. She replied "So that was done orally?😝"
  7. Love2fish

    On line dating vents and laughs......

    You've got it Arneal, My brother's wife is 20 yrs younger and they have had a great union. Everyone of us brings something different to each relationship. Love ain't always where we are looking for it, it's always where we find it.
  8. Now for something entirely different. I'm on a dating website. In my profile I say that I've been widowed twice. Minutes ago I got a flirt, nice looking lady, 9 years younger, divorced. I'm not sure if flirt is the right word. She wrote: "I am sorry for your losses. Enjoy the day!" I am neither comforted nor offended, I am LMAO !!
  9. Thank you Laurie27. You voiced very clearly what many of us are still experiencing. I'm glad I'm not the only one.
  10. Maybe next year. I think it's time to cancel this bago. The planets have conspired against us. Only one "maybe" coming at this point is not promising. I apologize to anyone who was still thinking about coming. I had to make a decision today. A young couple with a child were desperate for a winter rental. They were renting from the hotel at hotel rates and getting moved to another room regularly. This will save them a bunch of money, make me some money, and put a winters worth of stability into their lives. It's a win win although the bago is lost. If anyone was planning on coming you are still welcome. We would end up on a different venue and there are lots of those in Wells to choose from, beach, nature trails, good restaurants. Send me a PM and we can work that out.
  11. Love2fish

    The "First Widowbago"

    My first bago was also the first bago I organized. As I told Maureen, it was everything I had hoped for. Everyone got along so well, friendships were born, we shared a wonderful meal that felt like family, my condo did not burn down. Now the plot thickens. I had been seeing NG for about two years. She came to the bago for just a few hours after fixing us some wonderful food. She loved the ladies she met. So much that she told me that night we should do this again. Two weeks later we found out that she had stage IV liver cancer. Six months later she was gone. It is now one year later. Hosting that first bago has to be the luckiest/best decision of my life. The friends I made then were a huge comfort to Precious and myself. I used to think of WIDDA as something that helps us after our loss. I now think of WIDDA as helping me through my loss.
  12. Bump ... Two weeks till Wells. Anyone ready to commit? Anyone still thinking about it?
  13. Love2fish

    Labor Day 2019

    Hugs Maureen You got through the day. Proof: you're reading this :-)
  14. Love2fish

    2,194 days.......

    I still feel married to two women. I was married and with one of them 35 years, I was not married to NG. The certificate, the ceremony, the witnesses, these are not the things that make me feel married. That feeling comes from love and commitment that goes to the finish line. This just happens to be a HUGE problem for me right now. There was one more woman, the mother of my sons, who left me over 40 years ago. I was married to her and she dissolved that bond. She also passed away some 6 years ago. I stopped feeling like I was married to her decades ago when she left. Recently I made the statement that I was widowed twice which included NG. One son understood what I was saying and was fine with it. The other son lost it with anger at me for not including his mother in the list of deceased spouses. It was a major faux pas on my part and has seriously damaged my relationship to my son. He is minimizing my grief over NG by insisting that she was never my spouse but his mother was. With my commitment to NG currently under attack I feel more married to her than ever. The son who is so angry at me now is almost 50 years old and his mother has been gone over 6 years. How long will he still feel that I should feel married to her? That has to be the most fucked up question to ever pass through my keyboard.
  15. This may going come as cold comfort Alma. You are doing it right. hugs L2F

About Love2fish

First widowed in 2012, again in March of 2019

Personal Information

  • Date Widowed
    08/12/2012
  • Cause of death
    cancer
  • Spouse's Age
    64


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