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About Love2fish

First widowed in 2012, again in March of 2019

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  • Date Widowed
    08/12/2012
  • Cause of death
    cancer
  • Spouse's Age
    64


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  1. Love2fish

    Wells Maine - June 14 - 16

    Sorry to say that this weekend will have to be postponed. We could still do the weekend of July 12 -14 if interest is there and no one has to choose between Wells and RI. This is probably getting too close to the Chocolate bago in RI and I don't want anyone to have to pick between the two. I'm looking at September 13-15 or 20-22 for the next Wells bago. Feedback on what works best for you is welcomed.
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    Wells Maine - June 14 - 16

    It might be possible to reschedule for the following weekend, the 21st - 23rd or July 12-14 or July 19-21 f we can get enough positive replies in the next couple days. Other wise the only folks who have not cancelled yet (both of you) will each have a room to yourselves for the weekend and I will be in town anyway. ETA: I just remembered that Hachi was probably going to commute so that means it would be only MyRiver staying at the condo. Which is fine by me. Now would be a great time for any new people to get involved. Whatever happens this week I will schedule a weekend near the middle of September as we did last September.
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    Anniversaries close together

    Now I know why it's a good thing that could never remember birthdays or anniversaries! I was immunizing myself from calendar torture. Have a happy June 12 Bunny
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    How to handle triggers?

    Two months is still very early Melissa. I'm sure you've heard the old saying that "God will never give you more than you can handle" You don't need to believe in God to see this manifest itself in your life. You are stronger than you were 2 months ago. Whatever it is inside of you, it may be God or it may be your subconscious self defense mechanism, it knows you are ready for the next level. Two months ago you could barely lift yourself out of bed. Now you can do it with a greater weight. Eventually you will hardly notice that weight because fo your increased strength.
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    widowed 3rd may 2019

    That is another thing we do. Second guessing the ordeal and how we handled it. You can turn that into serious guilt easily. But if it wasn't one thing it would be another. I blame myself for not giving her enough hugs the last months. I could have brought more smiles to her face. One thing that saves me from these thoughts is remembering her mantra "It is what it is". That was not a cliche with her. She really did accept each piece of bad news with grace. I've got to keep reminding myself that guilt is not deserved or helpful. re. your edit ... Don't worry about dumping. That is what we come here to do. If you are not sure of the propriety of something you could PM me and we can keep it private or "clean it up" for public consumption. I should tell you that this is my second time around.
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    widowed 3rd may 2019

    I am very sorry you have reason to join us here Simon. Thank you for telling us about Maria. The strength of spirit and raw courage Maria had is humbling. My Precious, who passed March 8, had such courage. She also fought for life, not just her life but our life together. Maria wants you to stop worrying and Precious wants me to be happy as well. That doesn't make it any easier does it? On the contrary it makes us feel their loss more deeply. They say that true love is wanting the best for the one you love. Sacrificing anything for their comfort is what you do. You have that kind of love. It will get you through and the world will be a better place because of it.
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    Getting Rid of His/Her Clothes

    A new memory project. The photo is a 4X6 mounted in the cheapest frame available. That frame is set into an 8X10 clear plastic box frame and surrounded by her bling and beach stones which she collected. Then everything is sealed with clear two part polymer epoxy. She had been saving beach pebbles for a couple years and planned on doing a frame like this so I know she would love the result. If someone wants to do this for me someday they'll use of photo of me fishing and surround it with some of my prettiest fishing lures.
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    Widowed 3-6-19

    Oh Cassie! I am sorry that you have joined our club nobody wants to be in. I lost my second great love on March 8. My loss was recent also but I cannot imagine the pain you must feel. I don't know any tricks but I do know that peace will find you when you are ready. I am glad you found WIDDA. Other voices will be along soon. Hugs
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    Wells Maine - June 14 - 16

    Bump Just a few more weeks. Can we start getting a head count?
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    I'm engaged!

    Congratulations! Thoughts on your burden. There is a reason that marriage vows include "till death do us part" It is wisdom passed down from many generations. She will always be in my heart, It's my job to keep that heart happy so she can enjoy the accommodations.
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    Helping them grieve/ reprogramming

    Dear Newtothis, I just cannot imagine. I can listen so when you have time again let er rip. My thoughts are with you.
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    On line dating vents and laughs......

    I hear you Virgo. I feel the exact same way after 90% of my M&Gs.
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    On line dating vents and laughs......

    I can see you understand Arneal. That is how I feel at this time. In your statement as mine the qualifier is time. When I think about the first two I unquestionably say that I would make all the same choices again, starting with the flirt that stated it all. Just give me some space to get my wind back and I’ll be ready for a third.
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    On line dating vents and laughs......

    I hear you Sudnlysngl. My brother is that much older than my SIL and their marriage is one to envy. I would be totally open to meeting women 18 years younger. Send any you know my way. I admit to having an ageist prejudice here. It's just that after being a caregiver twice I want at least even odds that it will be my turn next. So we had the M&G tonite. It was fantastic! The most fun I've had for months (excepting bagos). She did look as good as her profile photos, after two Long Island Iced Teas she was looking downright foxy. We are not destined to be a couple. We established that within the first few minutes. Which freed us up to be completely open and share things at a really profound level. A wonderful error I made with the dating app.

About Love2fish

First widowed in 2012, again in March of 2019

Personal Information

  • Date Widowed
    08/12/2012
  • Cause of death
    cancer
  • Spouse's Age
    64


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